Someone senior at work is very dismissive of my questions and makes me feel nervous around them. I have just joined the team and so I have a lot of questions. They also try to blow things out of proportion or misrepresent facts and I get flustered in the moment and can’t keep track of what really happened. So I end up accepting blame for things that were not my responsibility. And the truth hits me a few hours later. How can I break this cycle?

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I used to do that and still do ..: write down what needs to be said and then tell them you need to process it and get back to them don’t accept blame if it’s not yours

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Time for a new job! No ones got time to be manipulated and gaslighted by senior team members. Nope. Greener pastures.

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It’s hard to water grass your coworkers regularly set on fire, but I admire the fact you don’t want to back down. I hope you find a solution!

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