Sometimes I get so jealous of those who have their person who get to be happy with them while I keep getting left behind. It makes me feel like maybe I am just not good enough.

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Stay patient, work on yourself, be happy on your own and be hopeful, never lose faith. I am 37, turning 38 this May. One year ago I was single, mid June 2023 I met someone and now, this June 2024 we are getting married. There is a plan for everyone.

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I meant how? Dating app, in real life etc?

I understand this feeling so much! I’m working on building my self esteem back up. And it’s been really hard to have positive interactions with men. I just want to flirt and feel seen and good!

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Just know you ARE good enough and deserve everything you want! Think about all the people in your life who love you and care about you, you’ll find a partner who sees all the good in you. Keep focusing on you and building the life you want!

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Hey if you need someone to talk to, feel free to DM me. i’ve been in your shoes and to an extent i still am. i’ve found ways to cope but also understand my mistakes and build healthier habits in who i invest my time into

big thing i found was that you do tend to attract what you put out. and if someone ends up not returning the energy you give them, unless they did a complete 180, there are some signs there from the beginning. and if you grow to be more secure you’ll get better at recognizing these signs

also someone’s actions towards you tend to be a reflection of themselves. not YOUR worth

another thing i learned is that life isn’t fair and everyone is on a different path. how old are you? and comparison is the thief of joy. i’m sure there are several things in your life that feel like a priveledge to have. and perhaps others who feel like they’re loved and appreciated don’t have those things you have.

i’m def putting thoughts i’ve accumulated over hours and hours into a few words so may sound black and white, but it’s not. and therapy could help too!

At the end of the day, there is just so much luck involved in crossing paths with the right person at the right time. It’s not about being good enough, you are more than enough, it’s all about finding compatibility with someone who has the same values and is at the same stage of life as you. Being somehow different than you are won’t help you, it’s so much luck and timing unfortunately

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