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My daughter went through the exact same thing when we brought my son home. She was horrible the first month, and would throw tantrums constantly. She eventually grew out of it, but the only thing that really helped is making sure we did as many one on one activities with her as we could (she was just under 3 at the time). Another thing my therapist told me to do was to make it a point to tell her little brother HE had to wait for something so we could help her. Obviously a newborn wouldn’t get upset hearing that, but it showed her that he wasn’t first priority all the time and she still mattered.
Hang in there! Those first few weeks are so so hard for everyone but I promise they will adjust. My kids are almost 1 and 4 now and my daughter is so patient and kind with her little brother and so helpful with us.
Thank you this is helpful. He’s almost 4 so a decent age gap. Like the idea of him telling the newborn he has to wait so may give that a whirl. The tantrums are almost always sparked when we say we need to take a break from
Playing with him. Trying to dedicate as much time as we can to him but he wants all of it 🤷🏼♀️
Thank you!
Great advice here already. Just want to reiterate this is SO NORMAL!!! And that setting aside special time is key. I also encourage you to reward the good behavior when you catch it. They’ve noticed that crying gets attention. They also want attention. So any time they are waiting patiently or ask nicely, etc give them a ton of praise and verbal reward for the behavior. Like 6x more than the attention you would give negative behavior. You are doing a great job and this will pass!!
Sorry posted too soon and it won’t let me edit:
We’re at a complete loss having never experienced such extremes from him previously.
It’s all normal. There is so much change regardless right now. So hard for them to express their emotions. Janet Lansbury has a great podcast that gives guidance on many tantrum related issues and how to respectfully and empathetically help your toddler through them. Make sure you are giving your son the attention he needs, find ways for him to help, it’s partly also some loss of power and attention and will pass. Good luck, these transitions are hard!
Ditto on No Bad Kids!