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As long as you can get a contract amendment every 2 or 3 months, it’s cute. However, I do hear contract amendments are not considered cute, so there’s that…
Wife and I have been in separate beds for years. We are really both compatible like that but we figured it out and are OK with it.
Why SC1 you think I am being sarcastic?
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Not sure if that's stupid or cute, but it's just impractical. People may need to travel, and it may not be feasible to bring a spouse along on a business trip. If people have jobs where it's just assured they will never need to be apart, I guess it's endearing to make that kind of promise. But it just doesn't seem like something that would endure modern life.
Unrealistic and weirdly controlling/ possessive. What happens when one of you have to go on a work trip? Is the other supposed to use a vacation to come along? Or what if there is some other emergency or family event that only one of you can attend? Why not commit to not going to sleep when traveling with out calling or texting each good night?
or you never get to go on a bachelorette party or overnight trip for your kids' sports or something?
Stupid. I spend a LOT of time with my husband. But time away always makes me appreciate my husband so much when we reunite. It is a gift to get that perspective.
Do you ever go on a great vacation, but at the end you are really happy to get home?
You think of things to appreciate like the feel of your own bed, the convenience of your kitchen and the beauty of your view.
It’s like that, Professor.
Newlyweds? Lol cute in theory but just not practical
The fact that y’all so judgmental. Watch at least half of you being cheated on (and unaware) or in unhappy marriages. Maybe that works for you but why be so judgmental on what works for other people. Also the idea that to be happy you need to take a break from the person that you supposedly love, is bananas. Many people who are in happy marriages don’t separate at all and at perfectly happy. Just because this is your way, doesn’t mean is the only way.
Also, so naive to think that people are incapable of cheating, or to think that you need to be separated from your spouse to be happy, is not like in the day you are 24/7 with them.
But thank you all for you input. Interesting perspectives.
Thanks for admitting that. Go on and make FB shite like Quora. I feel sad for you a little bit. Take care professor.
Even reading this makes me feel a bit smothered. My husband and I compliment each other's lives, not control it. I love to travel and he doesn't, so at least once a year I head off on a solo trip for a week or two. I wouldn't give up such a massive part of my autonomy, or ask my husband to.
What she said
Cute. 23 years married. Never slept apart.
Have you had to travel for work?
I've been married nearly 20 years and we've spent under 20 nights away from each other during that time. Twice was while I was in hospital and spouse was with kids, and once was for a trip I went on with my brother.
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Why is this even a goal?
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Haha. Ok. Mark me down as “it’s stupid”
God..this feels toxic. Not cute at all. Definitely impractical, feels like whichever spouse suggested this doesn’t trust their partner and thinks this is a cute way to keep them in their radar. And what happens when you have to sleep apart one day? +1 to Stupid AF.
It’s not necessarily a goal for us, but the only times we’ve ever slept in separate beds since our wedding day was when I was in the hospital after giving birth to our sons. Even then, he pulled up a chair so he could sleep as close as possible without getting in the nurses’ way lol.
We just really enjoy sleeping in the same bed and don’t feel like we need a break from each other overnight. A few hours here and there during the day? Sure! We just get more out of cuddling at night.
People are saying “toxic” “controlling” “weird.” SD1 those are strange words to describe the simple scenario that you are describing that is “all people are saying.”