Things have been super stressful at work lately for a variety of reasons & a couple of weeks ago I decided to raise the issues with my Creative Director.
For context, he’s the reason for a lot of these problems and I (tactfully, I think) said as much. He listened to me patiently but took no responsibility and deflected blame with every issue raised.
Today he asked me to send an email to him about how overworked I am so that he can use it to talk to management. (cont. in comments)

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OP: Don’t put it in writing. You lose control of the narrative the second it gets forwarded. Your CD is being lazy asking you to write it down anyway. I know I’m not offering a solution but I just wanted to say that you’re right in hesitating to write an email. Follow your gut.

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Yes, this is what I’m worried about.

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We have a saying where I come from that goes: el que no llora no mama.

Roughly translates to: those that don’t cry don’t get fed.

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If you don’t trust him, seek counsel elsewhere in the company or speak to mgmt with him. Also keep notes for yourself. I really really don’t believe the ‘don’t say anything in case you might get fired’ line of thinking — it’s illogical and worse, keeps bad people in jobs. We women should stand up for ourselves. I was about to say that in England we say ‘the squeaky wheel gets the grease’ so there’s always an idiom you can use to confirm whatever bias you have, so ignore them.
If your best friend came to you with this problem, how would you advise them?

My fear is that the email I send will be used against me. Everyone else on my team is equally stressed but aren’t the sort to speak up about it. I don’t trust my boss. Am I overthinking it? Should I send the email? And are there any things I should or shouldn’t say in an email like this?

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OP: Which office is this? If it’s NY, I’d consider talking confidentially to your new CCOs. They would want to know if this CD is making things difficult for his team.

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This isn’t an American office. Another country, far, far away. I’m glad to hear the new NY CCOs are likely to help in a situation like this!

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I would ask him to clarify what he’s looking for, what’s the conversation going to be about. Maybe he’s trying to get management to approve an additional hire, and this email would help his case ... and so your email would address how an additional set of hands would help. You need more info, don’t jump to conclusions just yet

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What’s your long term plan if you have zero trust for the guy? Are you trying to get out?
As for this email - you know it’s going to get shared so that’s an advantage. Write it, step away form it, reread it, and also get the opinion of a friend or two, before hitting send.

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My strong suggestion here:

Be careful of EVERYTHING you write down, because if your CD/HR wants to find something to use against you to save their skin, they will.

Good luck fam.

Yes, I’m also hyper aware of this and hence, the hesitation.

Put it all in writing and make sure to CC HR, the CCO, the CEO and your own private email. This builds a narrative chain you can use to sue them with later.

I was in a similar situation many years ago working with a very difficult CD.

My copy partner and I had several talks with him, trying to make this better, but he was just an asshole, treating his creatives like shit for no reason, but also accounts, PM, and every other department.

We decided to have a chat with his line manager (our CCO), and we found out there were loads of complaints about him to HR.

A month later he was fired for behaviour. There is hope. But ya, don’t put this in writing as it could be used agaisnt you.

Reading through all your comments, I feel even more convinced I shouldn’t put it on mail. Any suggestions on how to let my boss know, since he specifically asked for an email? “Hi ABC, I am unable to find the right words to adequately describe the situation and so, would prefer to have a verbal conversation so I can better communicate my thoughts to whoever you intended on sending the email.”

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