We put money on a wedding venue despite not being engaged. My dad asked if he needed to avoid any dates in next year bc he wanted to book a fishing trip, so I told him the date that I was getting married. His response, “Ok cool. Sounds good. I just wanted to see what dates I should avoid. You should text your mother those dates so she knows when to not plan her trip.” 🫠

Who else has emotionally vacant parents?

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Im not sure what response you want…like you said, you’re not engaged. I find it weird that you put money on a venue without being engaged and expect people to be excited for you…

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Haha I doubt it :) they didn’t even get excited when my nephew was born

Hate to tell you, but if you have booked a wedding venue and set a date, you are engaged. You may not have a ring, you may not have done a photo op announcement, but you are engaged.

I am not sure what reaction you expected. He obviously asked because he thought it might be in the works. Did you expect a congratulations on booking a venue before you think you're engaged sentiment? At least he didn't say about time. Or, nice to let your dad know. I assume you want me there.

I can think of lots of things worse than okay, cool. BTW you might consider looping in your mom.

lol true. We don’t have this problem at all. In fact, my family would rather use the days to go on a vacation somewhere (not together)

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