When people match on a dating app and then exchange numbers is it common for people to run the number through a people search site to get details on the person?

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I should get a burner phone....jk jk 😆

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I refuse to give out my number or last name until after we meet in person and I decide I want a second date. It’s been so nice and it makes cutting things off so much easier when it’s not a connection.

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Very common

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Yeah, it is. But you typically have to pay for a reverse lookup service. More common is googling the person and doing a quick desktop background check.

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Heck yea but I use an app where it lets me give out a different number, then the app just forwards calls/texts to my phone. Very convenient.

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@Con1 It’s called Dingtone. They will try to sell you something every chance they get, but a number and use of the app is free.

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I’m shocked at all the responses here where people give out burner or other temporary numbers. If a guy gave me a burner number and then things went well and tried to explain that when he transitioned me to his real number it would freak me out. You have an entire burner phone for dating? How many dates are you going on to warrant that expense and inconvenience of carrying two phones? Do you have two lives? Are you secretly married? I’d rather folks just wait to give out their number personally. But to each their own.

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💯 agree SA1. That’s a red flag to have a burner number

I use a burner number until I meet face to face.
My phone number gives away my home address, don’t feel like dealing with stalkers again.

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“again”. Nice, haha.

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FaceTime FaceTime before meeting . You see it all

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I'm a guy and and I'll usually use free reverse phone lookup sites like whitepages, truepeoplesearch, or searchpeoplefree. If the woman chooses to give me her # before the first date that's generally fine with me but I will not volunteer mine until after we've met at least once.

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Well…….I research even before the number. I research then decide to match you or not

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Not uncommon.

So then how/when do you transition the guy to your real number? What do you say?

When they ask for my number on the app I say I prefer to not share that until after we meet in person and confirm that we click. Then if all goes well at the meeting I send my number through the app then. It’s really not that complicated and if a guy won’t respect that boundary it’s a huge red flag.

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If I can’t find you online via your phone number, I’m not seeing you in person. I do my research and make decisions based on that.

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