Why do wives talk so much shit about their husbands to their gfs and family members? And why do husbands stay with them?

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

Any other lonely social workers in here? I mean a lot to some of the people on my caseload but that's about it. Don't have any family near me and it's hard to make friends with non-SW's mostly just because I'm too tired after work to want to do much. Do you spend most of your time alone or is your social time self care for you? Just feel like I don't have a support system!

Your mom goes to college

Working Moms/Dads: Do in-house positions exist with flex time hours? I need to be able to leave work at 4pm to pick up my son from daycare, but i can get back online at home to resume any unfinished work at 8pm. Is this realistic to convey to any companies in an interview? Pandemic aside, is face time 9-7pm really important? Or should i just try to find a job with a salary that covers a nanny salary and accept that i will never see my son on weekdays (which would be sad for both of us)? TIA!

How long did you date your SO before moving in with them?

I think I want to be in relationship, but I fear that I actually am just lonely and not actually ready for relationship.
I desperatly want someone that I can spend time with, laugh with, and tell good news to amongst so much else.
I don't know what to do or if anything can be done...

Thoughts anyone?

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

Have this nurse at work that is driving me crazy...she told a family their kid would "definitely need dialysis" before I had spoken with them

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

My anxiety has been at bay after changing my job and just feeling like I HAVE control over my life. But now it's back because I feel like I'm behind in other aspects of my life (I.e dating). I have so many friends getting engaged and I just feel... anxious since I am SO single. I'm 27, and I know I'm at that age where people do but it just sucks. I've been on the apps too and it's just... more demotivating honestly than anything else

I was giving my kid the advice that the path you sometimes believe you are on is not necessarily where you will land, in a good way, and to stay open to those paths.

Help me make my point.

What did you THINK you were going to do when you started college, and what do you do today?

Anyone here want to be a friend can ping me..

Looking to move to San Antonio and we're looking at places in Alta Vista and El Dorado. Pros and cons? We have two kids under five, so looking for a nice family community with good schools.

I've been looking into applying to a position as a medical social woker in Banner. I am currently doing private practice therapy and have noticed that doing counseling 24/7 is not for me. I would love to work with people, helping people and providing a more "group" mentality of help such as classes. Is this even possible?

Married men of this group,
What advice would you like to give to the younger generation who are single/about to get married?

Any tips for organizing a bedroom, closet, dresser & bathroom? My teen has IADHD, and low executive functioning. Her room looks like a land mine. Clean clothes are mixed in with dirty, her desk is a disaster, she won’t let go of clothes she’s outgrown, drawers are open with clothes hanging out. A therapist said to close her door if we don’t want to see it but it’s more than that. She needs this important life skill & I don’t know how to help. Easier to organize w/o her but that’s not a solution.

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

Stupid Question- We have been thinking for IVF and trying to understand with this process, is there any difference in the health and life of the child as compared to a child born without IVF. I did ask this with our doctor and he said casually its all same. This is not to question any doctor but just to really understand what is going to be different with the kid. This is not very old technology and not much studies as well.

When do you give up? Wife has been depressed for some time now. I’ve been doing everything I can to help. Changed cities hoping this would get better, got her professional help.

Hello everyone,
Can someone share amount of hike and bonus received this year for 2 and 3 rating and with promotion?
I got 15 percent hike and 10 percent bonus

Has EY gds ever revoked their offer letter??

Any @capgemini fishes here to confirm current salary band for C and SC? Ideally HR Transformation and EE experience but just good to get some numbers and what leeway is there in negotiation?

Thank you

Found a good looking Herman Miller Aeron, used on CL. Worth the 400 bucks? Do not have a proper office chair at the moment

For people who recently refinanced, bought or is in the process of buying a new home, what APR did you get?

wisdom on getting promoted to mid-level at the same agency? I’d hate to leave but I’m coming up on 3 years of (real) experience & my agency is known to have CDs come in as seniors so I’m pessimistic

Did it happen with someone in the last quarter that although you got nominated by L1 for band progression but the promotion did not happen?

Does anyone work at AFS and would like to chat about a referral? I worked at Accenture before but had to leave due to a COVID-related family issue. Looking to come back!

Any advice on moving from L4 to L5 in Amazon?

Where you live now, how’s the LGBTQIA scene? Do they have areas that’s very inclusive for us? Would you recommend someone relocate where you are?

When mindtree will release the increment letters for annual apprisals

Hi Fishers,

Can anyone please refer me for boutique management consulting firms as I have less than 1 year of experience and I think it's hard for me to get into top consulting firms. I am looking for a job as I want to switch to management consulting.

I would also like to know what upskilling should I do to be a better fit for management consulting. I currently work as a Market research analyst.

Any help from the community will be really helpful. Thanks in Advance!

I’m concerned that my latest job have been less than a year each on my resume but I’m at my wits end and need to start looking. Do you think I will be overlooked because of the length of time at each company?

How do you deal with CDs and ECDs who clearly favour the guys in the (otherwise all male) department for no reason other than they're also guys? Do you bring it up with them? Go elsewhere?

I need help. Anyone have information of being an advanced medical support assistant for veterans affairs? I got offered a job in the SF valley . The pay Is a bit less but it's about 5.5 miles from my house.close. Why do people pray for government jobs? At the moment I'm with ucla health as an admin assistant float permanent& have been offered permanent placement at a site in LA about 16 miles . The pay seems pretty decent& also have the pension plan. Been here about 2 years no issues.

How much should I invest in buying a HOME as my primary residence.

Current TC: 200k
Net worth: 300k, readily available 170k in stocks, hysa and cash
Current rent: 2000 per month
Age: 30

Wonder if anyone has any excel model or a rule to determine how much I can afford or should go for?