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my wife and I are 10 years apart. 43/53 I’m the younger. I love that she’s older than me, she mature and graceful, she know how to be a lady. qualities that seem to be forgotten in today’s times.
Yes, but how old were you when you first met?
Both of your ages matter.
22 and 32 - hell no
32 and 42 - go for it
This was literally going to be my reply.
You Weird.
Don’t do it
Not that I’m condoning wrong actions, but I don’t see anything inherently bad here except her age — so I’m giving advice based on the heart, not status
You’re not doing anything wrong by asking
Just keep in mind she’s only 18 — legally an adult, but still at a stage where a lot changes and life experience is limited
If you both like each other, the best move is patience: let her grow, finish school, and see where things go
Waiting doesn’t mean losing her — it means respecting both your growth and hers, avoiding unnecessary harm, and showing maturity, which is always attractive. Waiting here isn’t about control or manipulation — it’s about respect and making sure any relationship starts on equal footing.
Have you hung out with any 18yos lately? My 18yo is v mature for her age but she is still absolutely finding her way in life. Happily she's mature enough to know that a 28yo looking for an 18yo is a massive red flag. The fact that the girl OP is dating doesn't know this suggests she's vulnerable to a power imbalance in this relationship.
Why are you asking about this on a job/career site?
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I read through all the comments to get as much information as possible before commenting myself. It sounds like she is 18 and he is 28. I'm speaking to the author, here: if you are questioning it, it probably doesn't feel right. My son is 18 and is close with both his male and female friends, so I know them all quite well. You're all still SO young! You want to be grown up but you're still almost a child, so focus on you and don't let some man who's already had 10 years experiences in the adult world mold you and fold you.
lol OP, you think 18yo aren’t old enough to be on this app but old enough to have a relationship with man who is almost 30yo. It’s interesting how you think.
The wider, the better
I’m 50 and my new wife will be 28 in a couple of weeks. I’m happier than I’ve ever been. I escaped 27 years of hell with a narcissist bitch who was my age.
Would the OP's situation be different if the female was older?
18-28 defo gross. I think after 25 it kinda becomes okay since you’ve matured likely. I mean 25 yo had already completed undergrad, gone into job market etc. 18yo barely graduated high school.
18 and 28 is pushing it, if you said 21 and 28 then maybeee
... and sorry, Manager: I guess I'm not quite as aware as you are, about what certain 18-year-olds are doing...
I can't speak for others, but my experience was miserable (I was in my low 20s and very naive). The age gap definitely interfered with the dynamics of our relationship. I chose to stay closer to my own age by up to a few years after that.
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Can you share more on what was it about the age gap that made it difficult?
Completely depends on how you were raised. 10yrs is nothing. One family I grew up with, he was a fighter pilot in WW2 (74), and she was (34). They were an absolute delight to be friends with. Age is just a number... But that's an extreme case.
Tell us the ages of each gender….
Yeah see that’s where it starts, these men start speaking for the women like he already did lolol because that’s what they want, a naive young woman rather a woman that’s legal and who is developed and can challenge him
24M, 44F??
That's a 20 year gap.
Please tell me you’re not a high school teacher
Does the app not allow you to set an age range? If it does and you've put 18+, you're gross.
And I thought you were gonna say
21 - M
11 - F
Just for future reference don’t ever reveal such details concerning your love life. She‘s 18 and look how people are responding to this. Look if you are responsible and she is mature enough to think for herself then ok whatever do what you wanna do but she’s barely legal.. Good luck.
I think if she is 25 and he is 35 that’s really up to them.