A friend of mine called me racist after I said I like white clothes. It was a simple conversation about clothes, there was no other context.
I’m struggling to understand, how can this be racist?

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It isn’t. It’s that the word (like many terms) have been used and abused incorrectly to validate someone’s insecurities and lack of understanding their own emotions.

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A distasteful joke to try and arise something out of nothing.

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Your friend has some issues. Preferring colors of clothing is harmless just like I can say I prefer black cars or a black interior.

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It isn't.

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They’re trying to assert a power dynamic over you to soothe their ego. Ask them to explain themselves

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I had a friend like this and while intergenerational trauma at play, it doesn’t make it okay to keep “checking” someone over things that have no significance

Some people are just plain stupid. I like wearing black suits and I am a white person. Does this make me racist?

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If you wear a white suit you’re appropriating from Michael Jackson

With the information provided it wasn't racist. Was there any context that you are omitting?

Be mindful of microaggressions and things like that.

But if the term for a heinous act is used and the intention was not racist… it’s a shirt

Were they being serious? That sounds like something that someone says when they are being silly but don't mean it in a serious way.

I was then told that it was just a joke. And then was sent a racist meme 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ feeling so confused

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