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Anyone got recruited for Pune location recently? My interview process has been completed and asked for documents on 23rd Dec, but till now I haven’t got any update after that. Today i called HR and they said manager has not provided any update on my application. Should i wait for the offer letter or look opportunity in another organisation? Deloitte Deloitte India
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I was diagnosed with a mild form of ADD (without the H component). I have a high IQ and am able to focus for extended periods of time when I feel challenged or am otherwise interested in the subject matter. That led to me having drastically different scores in schools - 100% in tough/challenging subject matters, barely able to pass in others. My nephew is also diagnosed with ADD. There’s a very specialized test that is 100% authoritative on whether or not one has AD(H)D. I’ll revert back with the name of the test.
By the way: there’s a real trade off in taking medicine to offset ADHD for people in young age. Concerta and drugs of that family can stunt a growing child/teenager’s growth. If your son is able to get by without treatment, that may actually be a lesser evil.
Tough situation. We are going through something similar with my niece. She just started high school. She was doing okay with some supports prior, but had a 504 and needed extra time to do certain things especially writing. She is a smart kid.. routinely scores in the high 90s on standardized tests, but needed around 3x the time to get there. Mostly As and Bs in school, but again with accommodations.
She can be very friendly and talkative when the subject matter is up her alley (for example she gave me a 15 minute lecture on how Apple play works) But sometimes she is very withdrawn or off.
Since starting 9th, she is struggling to keep up with classes, and often stays up all night obsessing over homework. She often refuses to go to school at all. She gets really upset about certain things on the level of tying her shoes. We are working with the teachers on all of this, but it is a process.
When she is doing something she likes (for her it’s anything tech related), she is extremely focused and quite talented. But for other things, it is a major struggle.
These symptoms looking back were partially and intermittently present before, but high school really made them clear and it has been extremely tough on her parents and the whole extended family.
How is he socially? Is he able to form and maintain relationships? Not saying this is the case, but. Have you done any research into high functioning autism?
It’s hard sometimes to make the distinction between something like adhd or high functioning autism and just normal proclivities / tendencies. I agree that there is a spectrum and even the experts don’t really understand this stuff yet.
If the grades are that bad, I would definitely go see a specialist that focuses on adhd / autism. Once you see the psychologist There are neuro psychologists that may be able to do some testing to figure out what is going on
I know it’s scary but if it does turn out to be something like high functioning autism, there are so many resources out there to help. It took us a longtime to accept the diagnosis, but since we started getting the supports things have been much better. And being part of a community is just so helpful. There are many many kids in this situation and we realized that we don’t have to invent ways to deal with it. There are play books and proven techniques that really can work.
You may be able to get an 504/iep with some accommodations or switch him to a more supportive school to help out. There are supplemental classes and special camps. There are special college/career programs now as well.
Best to go through this with patience and an open mind. And make sure to focus on your relationship with your wife and other children if any.
OP, from your post it seems as if the ADHD is a self diagnosis by you. You need to get it documented by a professional. It can open up all sorts of support for you and your son.
Check with your local county agency to see if they offer help, usually free of charge. If not most insurance will cover it.
If the ADHD is diagnosed, you can also get an IEP to help him in school.
Agree. My friends parents never gotnu m diagnosed and when we were going to colleges he was stuck going to community college and only after that realized he would have been eligible for extended testing times. Worth getting him all the right attention and accommodations but also accepting who he is and what he excels at or does not
You guys are confusing healthy child + environment not conducive to children + Poor schools + lack of paternal attention for ADHD.
Fix the above and revert.
He is barely passing. 60% is the cutoff for F in his school. I am not sure if he has ADHD or just lack of interest. He is also very sensitive about me tie-ing his laces in front of other kids, me talking to him in front of other kids, in general we have to be careful about what words we use. I may be over thinking that he has ADHD based on online websites day. What resources do parents with kids who have ADHD use? I am also considering getting tested by a child psychiatrist. Are there any special to see for sensitive child or a genreal child psychiatrist is good enough? Appreciate any insights. He is 9 years old.
I also think that most kids are same as my son, running around, losing stuff, low attention span and easily distracted. I cannot distinguish what is ADHD and what is not. I may be wrong but I think ADHD is a spectrum so it is possible that he may on the lower end. I would appreciate insights from those who are in similar situation.
He is also gifted and talented.
Honestly this is a normal part of growing up - don’t feel you have to run to a child psychiatrist to get something diagnosed. Be patient, loving and work through it.... I had similar issues
Disagree with D1. Be proactive and go get the testing done if the psych suggests
I would agree with PWC 1. Be proactive. Your description of your son is very similar to mine. In 2nd grade he was getting decent grades, equivalent to As and Bs, however he had significance help from his teacher to stay on task. He is distracted frequently, forgetful, defensive, and constantly makes silly mistakes on tests. This year in third grade he come home with Cs and Ds. We started down the path in speaking to the school, psychologist, and a psychiatrist at the end of 2nd grade. With my son, I know something is up. School won’t do much because he tests on grade level. I however feel differently and have been pushing to find answers. My suggestion is follow your gut as a parent. We are still not sure what path to take with our son but he have realized it can be mix of things, from emotional health, Anxiety, to yes ADHD. He had said “I am not good at anything” and struggles with just about anything. His lack of confidence plays a huge part. We have seen that turn around as we have helped him focus on his strengths such as Math. We have done this strategically and deliberately by spending time with him so he is ahead in math and feels confident in the classroom. I share this because its critical to be proactive to ensure he grows up with confidence. If you wait too long its hard and harder to turn the confidence around.