After how many dates do you increase frequency of seeing each other and more casual time spent together if you’re goal is a serious partnership? Mid 30s.

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Generally, I won’t go with frequency mindset. Let things organically progress. I suppose you both have careers so week days might be complicated, however, if possible spend time with this person. The weekends will be the best time to spend and learn each other more! Good luck to you both!

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It’s an organic feeling, not a mathematical equation.

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Absolutely!

Whenever you feel its right. For my ex we saw each other once a week for like 1 month then started seeing each other after work more frequently, and weekends as well (including sleepovers). I try not to crash and burn at initial phases but each relationship is different of course.

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That seems reasonable

Once or twice a week. Then ask her to be your gf when you’re ready

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1 date a week for the first month.

Post that, if things are going well see each other 2-3x a week with the occasional sleepover.

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After a month or two, if you're feeling it, lean in

It can vary, but I try for an average of once a week for about 4-6 weeks, and then gradually increasing from there

Depending on both of your geographic locations, you can always have lunch together during the workday week.

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