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I think it is easier for men than women…
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Definitely easier for men.They start targeting younger women since older women have higher standards and are more specific about what they want. They’ve lived life and don’t want someone who is going to be more of a burden.
True! I have proof of that one. They do not want a man that is immature (burden). Talk to so many women and they all say about the same. Younger women are learning this also.
Okay...truth...although I have heard horror stories from men about crazy women also...the men on these dating sites can be really really bad. Why? Because a lot of these men are on the sites to get laid only. They may put in their profiles that they are looking for love and an LTR...and maybe down the road they will be...but if they just ended a marriage or relationship...they are just looking to get laid. I have met MANY of them and it saddens me as I want to be more to someone than just a hole for them to stick it in, 90% of the time also women are the ones who file for divorce and men...in their selfishness and self absorbness...have no clue what happened...and will tend to blame the ex for everything. They don't look at themselves and what they might have done to cause the break up and then there they are on the sites again looking for a woman as they certainly don't want to be alone and they want to have sex again, These are many of the men "out there" in Singledom and the ones you as a woman want to avoid. They need to take a look at themselves and what went wrong. The ones who can do this...are the good ones. As for me, I have been single for years because I really haven't been able to find a good one who I am attracted to. I'm picky also. I don't like men who have let themselves go (and I do not care how nice they may be) and haven't (looking down) seen their member in years! Haahah! I am at the gym 5-6 days a week am very fit and I expect the same in a man. See....in the end...we will have to have sex with them...so it better be a man we find attractive right? Otherwise...at least for me,..it ain't gonna happen. I cannot fake attraction just to not be alone. I'd rather be alone then be with someone I find hideous. Other than all this there are a lot of man children out there many who have no clue how to treat women. Some downright jerks. I once had a guy I met at a Meetup site contact me after the event via email and asked me out for coffee, He gave me his phone number, I called him that day left him a vm and asked him to call me back to plan the date. NEVER heard from him for 5 days (yeah! Real excited to get to know me eh???) so on the 5th day I sent him another email asking him if he still wanted to do this. He said "Yeah why not?" And I said "Because I never heard from you. You never returned my phone call to plan this!" He didn't apologize...just said "Well what about this Monday?" We did end up going out and having a good time but I ended things after a couple more get togethers because even after being married twice he had no clue about how to treat women which I'm sure is why his "wives" both left him. Revealed that he had never even offered to make either one of them dinner to give them a break. Yet now that he was single he was cooking meals for himself! WTH??? He made the excuse that they both loved to cook so he let them do it. Never even offered. Unbelievable. I dodged a bullet!
I agree with you completely. All the men I meet on dating apps say they are looking for a long term relationship. They are not. They just are looking for a hook up. It’s disgusting
My personal experience is that the older men are not communicators. It is so difficult have a decent and meaningful conversation.
Any men really. It's so disappointing.
Easier for men who are successful. If you are a man and you are in your mid 40’s, you are expected to be financially free and in a position in a company where you are leading teams unless you have your own business. To also add, if you are already rich, in good shape, have social skills then you shouldn’t have problem finding women
Whoa. That is a pretty small population of men! My ask was more about middle aged professional men in the say, top 5% or so of income range for the 40-50 age range, and not out of shape but not insanely ripped or anything, still have some hair :-), can hold an intelligent conversation, and are relatively drama free - which is most men I seem to find in the dating circles. It just seems like women who are in a similar profile struggle a bit more than similar men do.
Wow, from my point of view as a man of 60 I don’t go out looking for young or old but I’ve been attracted to older women from the age of 16 now that I’m older I won’t look for any age if we meet and hit it off cool if not keep it moving but I will never walk up to an older women just because they have to many hang ups.as to why older man go to younger women is the fact that they don’t want to change a man they just want to be with them. As for women in there 45+ years if you really want a man then stop trying to change them stop talking about what the last man you were with did or don’t do who they can be around when they should come and go stop asking about how much money they make. I could go on with this but to sum it up.get off your high horse and come back to reality or get that house and some cats and enjoy life.
I'm in my mid 50's and I dont have an inflated self worth but I find most men I have met either just want to be pen pals or they want one thing only. None seem to make the effort to actually met and go out on a date. Even a simple date of coffee or a walk in the park would be appreciated.
But it is very hard to date for everyone. Men I talk to say the same thing, too many women are high maintenance or they talk and then ghost.
Yep been ghosted a few times after going out for a coffee date. Doesn't matter that we seemed to hit it off and talked straight for 2-3 hours! Never a lull in the conversation. One recently even said he wanted to see me again. Then...nothing. This was on a Thursday. I think he went out with another woman on Friday...liked her better and so I was out the door. I am so sick of this shit. I have wasted so much money paying for dating sites with disappointing outcomes left and right I think I'm done.
I like conversations about women, when there are no women is in the room. Always interesting and may reflect some kind of overall issue.
Well, I found my one and only at a Roller Skating Rink in New Orleans after graduating, and moving to the area to start my career in the Chemical Industry. Today, we passed our 44th. When you find someone in your life, make sure yours and hers values are aligned, and should have an idea after several months. Ours went from meet and greet to marriage in 2.5 months.
I have not had much luck
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I’m 40 and a woman. My friends who are in their late 30s prefer men younger and won’t go near a guy in 40s because they’re usually all bald/balding, out of shape (not fit). You’re even more picky about this when younger…in my early 30s I wouldn’t even consider a guy in late 30s. I think it actually becomes more difficult for men after 40 and most men over 40 are usually grappling with baggage from an ex which is why they haven’t settled down. Maybe if you get a gold digger she will stay, but for how long is the question then.
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Again, as much as older women want to date younger men, more men want to date younger women.
Easier for men