Any tips on dealing with separation anxiety? I’ve been local for the last year and will now been traveling M-Th. My 12 month old hasn’t dealt with this

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I’m leaving because I no longer care to be away from my kids this much. That said, the things that helped us (with kids from brand new to 5 yo).
1. Don’t travel when it causes you to miss important events. Talk off time for bdays and little league games.
2. Get a wall map. Talk about where you’re going.
3. Don’t make presents a habit. I occasionally bring back a plush toy or consumable when I travel internationally, but you don’t want it to feel like you’re paying for your absence (or their affection) with material things.
4. Never say “I don’t want to go but I have to.” It’s simply not true, and it conveys a total loss of agency to your kids. Instead say “It’s important that I go because my friends in [city] need my help there.”
5. Communicate commitments in advance and stick to them. My 5-year has a pretty idea of my schedule 2-3 weeks out. She knows when it will be a short week or long week and when things might change.
6. FaceTime. I bat about .900 on this.

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Quit consulting so you don’t ruin the kid

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They adapt just fine as long as you and your spouse don’t make a big deal out of it (eg you don’t cry when you leave, you don’t apologize over and over, etc). Then, lots of FaceTime while you are gone and 100% focus on then when you are home.

There may be time when your kids pulls away. Normal and it’ll bounce back

My dad was physically around but not emotionally. The emotional part is more important!

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For a period of time I was in China for 3-4 weeks and stateside for a week. Soul crushing. What kept me going was FaceTime. Pick a morning and evening time. Check in even if it’s for a few minutes. There is no easy answer but kids are resilient. Just be visible every day

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Is this about your 12-month old, or you? The 12-month old will be fine. Seriously. Promise.
You, on the other hand...

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Bring a bunch of board books and FaceTime with them at night while you read one

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