Anyone have 3 children? Tips to making it work?
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Hello All, In the next couple of months i am targeting companies like Apple , American express, Salesforce, Microsoft etc. Can anyone please share the required skill set and preparation strategy for these companies? YoE - 4 years Current skill set - Advanced SQL , Pyspark,Azure services, Hadoop ecosystem , shell scripting, Power BI
I am not very good at DSA.
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I do, and it is tough. I would love to see what tips others have as well!
Having a nanny who comes to my house is a huge help. It is important that she is flexible to stay late when I need to travel. The nanny does laundry for the kids and loads the dishwasher. She occasionally cooks something basic, but generally has her hands full with the three of them.
Having additional people on call is essential for driving the kids around to activities. Currently, these additional people are the four grandparents, and they carry a necessary function. I would have to hire additional help otherwise.
I cook food for the week all mostly in one afternoon (Saturday or Sunday). Slow cooker, oven, rice cooker, all stove top burners are going at the same time. Everything is in the fridge and labeled with kids’ names to avoid allergy or preference issues. Some is frozen for backup. I almost never cook a fresh meal during the week, except chopping up fruit/veggies. When I am on the road, I have ordered Instacart to deliver to my house when kids were running out of milk.
I work out during lunch whenever possible. I let my husband take on anything he is willing to do. My house is often a mess, and I try not worry about it unless someone is coming over.
When kids were not listening and not getting done what they needed to do, I built a spreadsheet with schedules that we edited together. It helped quite a bit to align with them, my husband and the nanny around the expectations. Creating a routine with a reward that follows success helped us greatly. Example: if homework is done, supper is consumed, kids are in pajamas and teeth are brushed by 7:30pm, they may watch 30-45 minutes of cartoons (approved by me). I get a sanity break while they watch cartoons. :) It is much easier to get them right to bed after that. They have a time-boxed reading time before they get in bed.
OP - you are welcome! Not saying I have it all together, but glad if any of this helps.
I do. It’s not easy that’s for sure. Still trying to figure out how I can make time for myself and my marriage is under a bunch of stress, so it’s safe to say I may be failing. I do think I’m one helleva mom though.
I have 3 ages 4 and under. No way to avoid stress and insanity completely, but my survival depends on: Nanny. Instacart. Supportive husband. Weekly date night. Coffee.
Oh lord. I can barely manage one. No tips but wishing you all the luck
It’s hard— but it can be done. My kids are still young, but it gets easier every day as they get older. Until they start having a lot of afterschool activities, I find it easier to manage.
I hold true to leaving when I have to and being present when I’m with them as much as I can. That control over my schedule is key, and in return I do my best to give my team as much support as they need.
We have a lot of cookies & junk food in the car (it’s the time we spoil them and makes us all in a good mood after a long day).
I have absolutely no idea how you make time for yourself though (or marriage). It’s like ships passing in the night, everyone house work and work to do, there’s never time to unwind. I used to work out, but I really only managed that on mornings I worked from home. I’m no longer able to work from home, so that’s out the window.
Good luck— stay calm— embrace sick days as 1:1 time with your kids since that will rarely be the case— in a stressful/potentially dangerous situation, save the kid that could die over just a bump/bruise— everything can be solved with a song and dance 😊.
Good luck!!
I have 3 kids and i’m going to buck the trend of these comments by saying: I LOVE IT. I found that managing 3 kids isn’t any more difficult than managing 2 kids (for context, I have two young elementary schoolers and a 1 yr old). It’s actually maybe even easier The two bigger kids used to push each other’s buttons a ton but now that there’s a third, they have somewhere else to direct their energy and attention and it totally changed the dynamic for the better. Plus, I got way better at parenting and decision making the third time around. My only tips are: make sure you have tons of help (we have an au pair, plus my husband is super involved and accountable), and relax about the details.
Oooof envious. Not making time for myself, marriage is stressed and I don’t feel like I am a great mom. Just try to maintain perspective that we are very much still in the thick of it...
I’m sure your kids think you are the greatest mom. Don’t be so hard on yourself! But I 100% agree that we are definitely in the thick of it. I hear (and hope)it gets easier.
I went part-time when we went from 1 to 3 kids (twins). It's harder work-wise, but so much better for my family.
Did any of you find grumbling from Mgmt at work when you let them know you were expecting a 3rd?