Anyone have difficult relationship with parents who can be classified as takers? How do you deal with them?

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Give them whatever they want.. They are my parents

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I can't relate because I have tremendous parents who are the main source of my motivation. I'm sorry to hear this OP. Must be difficult.

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A1- you're very lucky and I wish I had what you had.

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Don't feel obliged to give more than what you can afford to give. It's ok to "outgrow" your parents as you may have had more education and life experiences that make you a better decision maker. In the end, if you go down, they go down too.

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It is about protecting yourself. Look up that psych book about FOG- fear, obligation, and guilt

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Therapy. Avoid. What do you mean by takers?

That's tough. The fact that you wouldn't exist if not for them is what requires you to cut some slack. It's the first relationship ever, with biological connection and that will make it hard to not be nice.
But there has to some line beyond which you cut off that relationship.

Create some comfortable distance. Manipulation is never okay.

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