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Some context might help. When a guy says “happy wife, happy life” it’s caveated on the fact that he already found the perfect wife for him. She already makes him happy, and probably does things (intentionally or otherwise) that she doesn’t have to that makes him happy. “Happy wife, happy life” is just a reminder to himself not to take her for granted.
Let me ask you this: What would you be saying if you had a wife who is a 9/10, great in bed, a good parent to your kids and pets, amazing cook, plans time for your games and your family, and earns 300k+? You don’t think a happy her = a happy life?
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Well….
“Happy husband, happy life” doesn’t rhyme so…
Happy hubby, cut his balls off!! ☠️
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Idk man to me “happy wife happy life” is usually within the context of picking your battles or making accommodations to make your partner happy even though it might not be something that’s important to you. My wife is really type A and stresses about things that just wouldn’t bother me at all - but I make a point to address those things and make sure she’s happy because when she’s happy, I’m happy. I think you might be overthinking the expression and interpreting it as someone have their husbands balls in a vice. In my experience, one of the biggest parts of marriage is anticipating needs, accommodating them, and compromising when you can - and knowing that they do the same in return.
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Bingo. I don’t care what color the office is painted, but if she thinks it should change then it will change. Takes very little time out of my day and happy wife happy life
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Y shock tho?
Line got good flow off tongue (funn 2 share)
+ true enuff dat masses find it relatable (human connection)
It 2023 u can create ur own line n share if u want
Mayb "dats mai hub, wut a dub🙌🏻"
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I cringe at it because it reeks of weaponized incompetence. Women are positioned as naggy dictatos when really they are more often still the over-functioners (doing more housework and child-rearing) in their relationships with men who won't do something until they ask. In popular culture, "happy wife, happy life" is usually said by an under-functioner man who just agrees with everything his wife says because he's not involved enough to be right most of the time anyway. I don't think this phrase would be as popular if there was more balance in heterosexual relationships
So funny when something that is engaged or positive towards women is cringe. I don’t know if OP is F or M but the post reeks of double standard.
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As an F I actually agree with OP. It’s a very old and dated saying, and if we’re as progressive as we claim to be these days it really should be frowned upon. If the saying were reversed people would be in an uproar. It implies giving into wife’s every demand, and marriage should be about compromise and mutual respect. If as Fs we expect that from the men, we should give that same back and not be hypocrites.
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Agree that it is a dated saying.
I think the saying in the 60s and '70s might have been very useful, given the unequal power dynamic in relationships.
Now that the power dynamic is improving, we may want to relook at this phrase.
Another perspective, like someone mentioned above, the phrase is akin to 'pick your battles.' This applies to both genders. I wonder if it's something that women actively do and so it effectively balances things out without needing to change the saying.
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You don’t need to sacrifice your wants, but you do need to compromise which it seems like you’re incapable of doing.
It’s a gimmicky saying that rhymes. It’s not that deep. In real life, more sacrifice is de facto expected from women, especially as wives and mothers, than is ever expected from men as husbands or fathers.
Idk if this is true or not but I have friends with unhappy wives and I can confirm that they do not have happy lives.
As a husband I do sacrifice for the love of my life. What kind of an asshole would not. If you love her you should want to make her happy. She should also do things to make you happy.
I didn’t say sacrifice happiness. But take as you wish.
Are you able to be happy when you know your partner is not?
Or do you even have one?
The phrase itself relies a lot in context.
In my case, I usually say it because I know my wife likes stuff that most people might find silly but is stuff or situation that makes me happy to provide because it makes her happy
Also, when she is in a bad mood or we're somewhere and she's not comfortable Im also not happy. Not pissed at her, but rather a natural feeling of unrest because who you love is not having a good time.
TL:DR Empathy bro
A better saying would be happy spouse happy house. That way it’s not all about the wife.
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Agreed I live in a condo! OP needs to check their privilege!
I love when people take a simple phrase like “happy wife happy life” and project all of their negativity onto it so that it means so much more than it actually does.
If your partner being happy means you have to sacrifice your wants and needs — then the problem is a lot bigger than a silly rhyme you’ve decided to take out of context.
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I've been following the 'No wife, no strife' path and gotta say, it's great 🫡
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This is a true phrase though, what experience do you have, OP?
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Not everything is as deep as you think. Read some of the other comments, most people just like it because it rhymes…
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All the saying means is that you should pick your battles, and be mindful that a little give where it really doesn't matter in the long-term term can go a long way towards having a happy relationship.
I tend to be more selfish and "always right" than my wife, and when I focus on only what I want there is a ton more friction in our home.
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I think you’re misunderstanding. First, being in a relationship with a person who is unhappy can have a very negative impact on your life. I was in a long term relationship with a person who had many emotional issues and it definitely made my life harder. I’m married now and my wife has a very positive outlook on life that has a tremendous uplift on my life and wellbeing. Second, I think this is an old saying so you need to take it with a grain of salt, but I do think it speaks to caring for your partner. Being a caring partner often ultimately ends be being care for your relationship and in some respects yourself.
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The way I see it, we need two things
1. Need a rhythmic saying - can we do something with Hubby.
2. New wife for you.