Are you friends with the people you work with? I am having a difficult time trusting my coworkers. Had some bad experiences from the previous bank I was at.

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It's fine to be friendly, so far as it goes. But not really friends in the traditional sense. I mean, talk about sports, hobbies, whatever. But anything that really matters you should only share on a need to know basis. There's no benefit in people knowing things about you they really have no need to know. Simple as that, cold as it seems.

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Trust no one, trust them to do work related things. Don’t trust them to be your friend. Also have been burned before.

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It really sucks. Some people are really good at pretending to be your friends and then their true color shows…

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Don’t trust them. Don’t over share. Just do your work and maintain a professional relationship if they are someone senior to you. If they are same level, I guess you can be buddy buddy

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What happened?

I don’t really wanna get into it. Long story short don’t overshare.

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