are you open about your sobriety with colleagues?

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I do. I’m proud of it but I also diffuse it by telling crazy stories of my prodigious alcohol and drug use and how shitty it got. Acting like you have no shame makes you feel no shame. Look at it this way, anybody who makes you uncomfortable is a rookie. You’re the veteran who’s seen it all.

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Absolutely. You should own it. If they don’t like it, fuck em.

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Sooner rather than later, there’s gonna be booze and drinking at an agency, so as I get to know people, when the timing is right, I’ll mention that I don’t drink. If they ask why, I just say it’s a personal health reason.

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I was once at dinner with a client. The wine was being poured and I had turned my glass upside-down. The client said, “You’re not drinking? Why not?” I replied, “Because I have your Twitter account in my pocket.” He said, “Good reason.”

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I don’t say I’m in AA, only that I don’t drink bc I don’t like the way it makes me feel. (Suicidal. Haha. But I don’t say that). Once I break my anonymityI can’t I unring that bell. Plus I don’t want to risk being someone’s vision of AA. Like some people mentioned earlier, if I’m close to someone at work or if someone asks how I stopped drinking bc they need help, then I’ll tell.

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Yes. There’s too much alcohol around the office for it to not come up that I don’t drink, so I just own it. It’s my strength, not my weakness.

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I don’t discuss it really. When it’s time to order a drink, I don’t. If anyone asks, I say I don’t drink and 98% of the time that’s the end of it. Other 2% is me wanting to share more. It’s more important to you than other people, as it should be.

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Only ones I am very close to.

I tell them I don't drink, but I don't say I'm in AA. Attraction rather than promotion. If someone asks cause they are looking for a way to get sober then I share. but that rarely happens.

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