Working for a senior who is beyond horrible. She talks to you like you’re stupid and makes it sound like you’re absolutely terrible at what you’re doing. She’s made 5 other associates cry during her 5 year career. Got someone fired and made another person quit. It’s known around the office that she can no longer have a female associate, because she talks down to females more than she does males. I came along and thought I could deal with it but she literally makes me want to not log on tomorrow.

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I worked with a manager who was like this. Partners received more than 5 complaints about her in the past 2 years but she was still promoted because she was a strong performer.
I, like the others, could not take her shit. She clearly had mental issues that needed to be worked out with a therapist. Luckily I was not on her team permanently.
I would either report her to a partner or maybe even the hotline. She’s creating a hostile/unhealthy work environment.

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What group is she in? I might be making a switch to KPMG

Why don’t you push back? People like this should not be tolerated. Push back in a professional way and keep a record of the conversation.

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Absolutely. I cannot fathom being talked down to, yelled at, or belittled. I’m a grown ass man. You will not speak to me that way.

I’ve had multiple situations like this at my firm. First senior I ever worked with was absolutely horrible , I lost 25 lbs in one busy season working with her. I thought maybe this is just how public accounting is. I ended up doing horrible work for her and she would yell at me and ask if I’m even competent. Luckily I was put on a different team. The new team got along well with me and now I’m told I’m one of the top performing seniors and all partners like me. Moral of the story is, don’t listen to her bullshit. You need a new senior, proactive request to be on different jobs.

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Do you think there is something about her that allows the behavior to continue? What makes this acceptable?

Sounds like she is in the partner’s pocket

Talk to your coach or career advisor and tell them what is going on. They should have your back. I was in a very similar situation and eventually refused to work with my senior. Don’t keep it bottled up, It’s not worth being miserable.

I feel I can relate, sort of. I worked with this manager (diff office) once on a small task. Someone asked how it went, I thought it was fine. Turns out that manager isn't great w/ staff and all their associates in that office quit cause of her (gossip but there was definitely no staff there). Later on the manager transitioned out of that position into a different Dept. Manager's work before turned out to be horrible (looking back at PY work), now their current position we're like - what is the point of this said position?! Even tho we're not in the same Dept, I somehow still had to work with them on another task and still made me cry. I talked to a different manager about it and got it handled. We don't know why this manager is still here but we assume they're just close with the OMP..

Every time I get a ping from this manager - who now texts my personal # as well - is like PTSD. It's the first thought in my mind like - "shit, I hope it's not xxx.."

You should ask out her for dinner and drinks. Tell her you’ve noticed she needs to blow off a little steam and you’re willing to take one for the team. It’s a foolproof plan 👍

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