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Follow your heart. Also, don’t take out a loan to borrow money to them when they say their enemies are after them.
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I come from Real Estate wealth and was determined to work my way up and not rely on the family money. As kids we hung out with other wealthy families and their kids. Few were nice but many were snobbish (kinda like one of my siblings). Years later I'm making $230k in technology and also seeing a young lady who is first gen American and came up the hard way. Worked hard and earned scholarships to grad school. She know works at a VC and earns similar to me. I couldn't care less about how much she makes and her background. I look at her track history of accomplishments and think "WHAT A WOMAN!".
People who come from wealth usually take it for granted and after a while it is at the back of our minds and not something we think about all the time nor a yardstick we judge people by.
If you like this girl, OP, give it your best shot and forget about money. It sounds like she doesn't care much about it and is in the relationship for you.
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Yes, you are right - people from wealth usually take it for granted. A number of years ago I did tax returns for families with 2nd - 4th generation wealth. Many, if not most of the 3rd/4th generation could not handle their money, didn’t know the hard work it took to build that wealth, and generally squandered it instead of building upon it.
And there are many people from non-wealthy backgrounds who simply value hard work, fall into good opportunities, and build upon it.
Just remember that you’re a badass and rich on your own. Don’t need this person to validate it or make you feel less than
They probably don’t. Just pay attention to what they say. If you detect subtle hints of classism I’ll recommend asking them to clarify what they mean. If you meet their friends pay attention to how they behave; this is how this person behaves when you’re not around.
Don’t try to make your self feel like you’re auditioning for the role of wealthy persons SO. Just be your self! Lastly, awful to say but if you’re a woman I can assure you he does not care. Just try not to be overtly moved by the excess. Focus on what this man does to show you he can be a good partner. I’m not talking about gifts, the small things matter a lot more. Obviously, I say this assuming you aren’t interested 👑
Did they make the money to be rich? If so, they respect your individual success and independence. If didn’t earn it, but family money, same answer. If your female, he cares less about your career and more about how genuine you are (and attractiveness-looks and personality). If you are make, same answer. Bottom line, you already proved yourself to be in the loop. Now be yourself and have fun, you don’t need anyone.
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Lol. Wow. I’m imagining dating someone who makes as much as YOU and I now feel inadequate
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Wealth should be considered logarithmically, so if they are pulling in $2.5M/yr, that’s comparable to if you were with someone who was paid $25k and harbored your insecurity. Would you be evaluating the $25k person the way you fear? Is your person less or more than 10x your income?
Uhh if he’s a guy he doesn’t care about what you’re pulling in as much as other character features lol. Id argue he likely doesn’t care at all
You should communicate what’s you’re feeling. Clear communication is key no matter how awkward it may feel right now, once you you put it out there you will feel so much better.
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Is this the first time that you feel like this while dating a guy who’s maybe out of your league ? I’m
Yep, usually feel like most are in my league
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My tough love advice - don’t let your own insecurities stop you from being happy. If there are no red flags from your SO - he/she isn’t condescending or holding your salary against you - then consider why you are trying to self-sabotage.