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Not a dad (expecting BigLaw mom) but please, for the love of god, take every single day you are entitled to under your firm’s policies. Do not work from home. Your firm will deal, and your partner (and women everywhere) will thank you.
Dad here. Take the time. ALL the time. Was the best time of my life, being cuddled up with the baby as much as possible and helping the wife.
Take every ounce of time you’re given. However if you are allowed to split, do half when she first gives birth and then second half when she needs to go back to work so you have alone time with baby
Yup this is what I did. 4 weeks at the beginning, went back to work for 8 weeks, then 14 weeks once my wife went back to work. I will say work was pretty tough with a one month old though.
My firm gave me 4 weeks. I took all 4 and didn't feel bad about it.
I don’t have kids, but 2 male seniors in my group took something like 6 weeks. Whatever was allowed. They both made partner last year.
Dad here. Take it all.
My husband took 12 weeks parental leave plus 1 week of vacation with our second. 12 weeks parental leave for all is a relatively new policy at his firm (v10 or 15). Only maybe one man in his group had taken the full leave before him and the group was / is getting crushed. He only worked a handful of times and people were very respectful and supportive. They didn’t remember how long he was out when he got back - once someone else is staffed on your matters and you’re out past 2 weeks, no one really has the energy to care.
Hi 🙋🏻♀️ Mom here. Take that time dads! Take that time! It’s super special, the mama needs more help than she’ll ask for, she WANTS you there, and there’s a ton to do around the house that you’ve been putting off for way too long…
I worked in house and took the whole time that CA gave me - 12 weeks. You’re protected by law but the company had a few layoffs and I was one of them.
I was told that the layoff had nothing to do with me being gone, but was for economic factors, and if the layoff would’ve happened anyway there’s no protection.
Luckily I had some thing 1000 times better lined up, but it was still a bit of a shock. Take that with a grain of salt.
Take the whole thing! I did!
I took 4 weeks with my first two kids and 6 weeks with my third. My first day back at the firm with my third was this past Wednesday so it ended up being more like 7 weeks with the holiday. That extra two weeks made a world of a difference for my family and my wife. I could tell my group at the firm struggled with the work in my absence, but at the end of the day they survived just fine and that time with my family is not something I’ll never regret taking advantage of during my career.
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My friend at FB took the full 4 months. Every parent does. No guilt. It’s literally a corporation. But he likes his wife and wanted kids so probably very different from a lot of cis straight men.
Do take the time you're allotted and need. If someone treats you differently as a result then that's on them and not you.
I got two weeks "off" but it was still working, still getting emails about completing work, still being asked to join calls, etc. Depending on your supervising partner it's unlikely you will get more than a couple days after birth of your child as completely off.
What an awful place to work.
Stub year and just curious: does taking your allotted paternity leave delay making partner or otherwise slow your rising through the normal track? Obviously firms that do that would be worth leaving but wondering if this has/is happening.
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I mean… one of many reasons why most everyone at the top is men and not women. It does have impacts. But if EVERYONE took the time off and that was normalized, it would all even out instead of disproportionately impacting women. And if you take two 4-month (on the high end) paternity leaves during your career that’s still only a year or less that you’re “behind” your peers, if you’re not able to “catch up” which you probably can. Hardly matters in the grand scheme of your career. Partnership, especially 8 years to partnership, is hardly a guarantee for anyone in any case.
Versus that bonding time with your kid is not something you can necessarily ever “catch up” on. You only get busier and get more responsibility in your career, and newborn bonding time is something unique, your sulky teen doesn’t want to hang out with you even if you are now full of free time.
For all three of my kids I took about a week off for each kid.