Completed a second round interview and was emailed follow up that said no offer would be forthcoming unless I burned bridges at my current firm. They want me to put myself in a weaker bargaining position so they can low ball me. This seems to be a theme in my area. "I want a top tier paralegal but I don't want to pay a top tier salary." Any advice on combating this? No one includes salary ranges and I don't want to lead with salary expectations, but it's just wasting everyone's time.

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Anyone that is asking you to “burn a bridge” isn’t professional. If that is how they are acting before you are even hired I can’t imagine how unprofessional they will be once you are hired

Doesn’t sound like a place that I’d want to work or be associated with

Just my humble opinion

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I'm not clear on what "burn bridges" means. And why would they expect you do anything at all if they have not actually made you an offer or even discussed a salary range?

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Right!? That's what I'm saying.

That’s just a toxic environment. Save yourself from that.

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It also sounds like a trap honestly. So he can be assured you're stuck there and unable to leave right away. I'd be hella sus about working for him now. He sounds neurotic and toxic AF. I'd counter that I'm still interviewing so he knows he's not the only option but that I have no intention of leaving people I respect without a decent offer in hand.

Ironically, I had a couple of great interviews with a company come up last fall out of the blue. They knew I wasn't really in the market and still continuing to look so they made an offer on the spot. It wasn't even close to the best offer. But we all enjoyed each other so much, we decided to come up with a way to make it work. I get to WFH, full bennies and total hourly flexibility. I don't even have to login every day as long as the work is done and I let them know. I don't think I could have designed a better job if I tried. Even the jobs with better money paled in comparison. But I would have run a mile if I got approached with an offer like what you described. All to say if they really want to work with you they offer incentives not threats and situationships. Good luck out there. Remember you are a valuable commodity to be appreciated, not anybody's mule to kick.

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sounds like they don't want you using their offer as leverage to negotiate with current firm. Sh*tty position for them to put you in. Run far. Run fast.

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Any firm that informs you that no offer would be forthcoming unless you burned bridges at your current firm is NOT a firm you want and/or need to associate yourself with. BIG RED FLAG.

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Exactly!

Tell them with sign on bonus will burn bridges

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No, not until I see the offer.

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That is a huge red flag. I would run at a full out spring away if I were you. Not only is asking you to burn bridges at your current job disrespectful to your current employer, it’s disrespectful to you.

I don’t think it’s wrong at all to lead with salary range expectations - they don’t post it so it’s fair to ask up front so they don’t waste your time.

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I would send an email stating that you are withdrawing from consideration…thank them for their time, but also state why you are withdrawing. The email should include HR and maybe all who interviewed you. Others may not know that you were told to resign from your current position prior to receiving an offer letter.

Also this has to be a plaintiff’s firm?

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Can relate

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"Good Luck." Your price is your price!

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Burn bridges how? Like quit on the spot?

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He stopped just short of saying that but he said that I have to tell them that I'm leaving before I even have an offer and I have to emphasize that I was looking, it was my idea, I applied there, and that I wasn't poached. At that point everyone at my current firm will be upset they are losing me and it would make it awkward to say, you know, nevermind, I guess I'm not leaving. He's trying to force me into a situation where I will take whatever low ball offer he gives me.

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BOTTOM LINE: NEVER leave a job before absolutely have another one or you could wind up unemployed. No firm should ever put someone in your position. I can see them doing that to a lawyer, but not to a para.

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