Dealing with post-layoff friendship dynamics
Got laid off - now some close work friends ghost me completely (heard their mgmt told them not to contact laid-off people), while the person who got my role keeps checking on my wellbeing genuinely.
How do you handle the contrast of real friends disappearing vs someone in your old job actually caring about you as a person? Processing the bitter irony of who shows up vs who doesn’t.

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People show you their true colors in tough circumstances. Accept what they are showing you and move on.

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They are not your friends.

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Remember, you should be friendly to the people at work but they are not your friends.

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Thank you yes agreed

Again. I’m so sorry this happened to you because it happened to me and it’s not something you get over in a couple days. It’s a betrayal when you realize you meant nothing to them and they were only being nice to you to keep the peace.

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Work colleagues aren’t real friends. You shouldn’t get too close or divulge personal information to them.

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Yes cuz a lot of the time they just use that information against you to get ahead. It’s just the sad nature of the beast called the corporate world.

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I got a hard dose of this when I was laid off and my “work best friend” couldn’t even be bothered to check in on me. Haven’t talked since.

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Years ago was laid off and lost what I thought was a good friend. Before lay off we socialized on weekends. After lay off, she couldn’t be bothered to return my call. It happens and is best to move on.

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Sorry to say that I wonder if the one who got your job is staying on good terms with you in case they need to call and ask you questions if they get in a bind trying to do your old job.

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Lean on your friends and loved ones outside of work. I would try to not give this too much thought!

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Move on, they were never your friends.

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Getting laid off is strange for many reasons, but especially from a social perspective. For some, it seems like you have a disease they don't want to catch. They may be friendly but in the end, they were acquaitences, not true friends.

I always found it perplexing that we celebrate coworkers who leave on their own, like getting a new job or retiring. We may even throw them a party.

If they are forced out, the opposite happens. I think it is mostly out of fear. The good ones step up, and those people are likely your friends.

That’s why it’s called show business and not show friend.

Not all work friends aren’t real friends! I keep up with many ex coworkers after our entire department was cut… but if they’re not reaching out they’re not your friends, best to move on and head to greener pastures!

Honestly, if they are ghosting you, they were never real friends. It was to find out office gossip you knew. Been there several times. True friends, no matter what will stay in touch with you.

co workers are never friends, do not share anything

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