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No ragrets. I really don’t understand why would someone regret having a permanent friend and ally. Will there be friction sometimes? Sure but tell me if you live with your parents and you don’t fight with them too sometimes.
What annoys me the most is the trope that marriage should be annoying. To me it’s the best thing that has happened to me yet.
Married for almost a decade now btw
Why stay together then? In the words of bhad bhabie (English wali, not desi), “If you don’t like where you’re at in life, move. You ain’t a tree”
No point staying and regretting stuff
I miss my independence and my old self. I don’t regret my choice of partner but I wish there was a way to have a partner and still be able to travel freely, have time to read books, go out with friends and all that. Yes I want it all.
We have to make decisions as a team on my career choices, his career choices, where we live, where we vacation, where we stay in India and on. I miss being able to decide for myself and not have to check with anyone.
yup! This
yes, I guess we all do regret it at some point or another. In my case, the thing that annoys me the most about it is how little quality time we are able to spend with each other...it feels like we are highly focused on work all week and then weekends fly by with mundane activities and tasks. Also there is a maturity aspect to it like leaving his pants on the floor after changing, not hanging the shirts in place,etc. that annoys me beyond measure.
and rolled up socks everywhere!
I don’t regret it. I enjoy it, most of the time. 5+ years..
What annoys me? The fact that I get lost once she speaks more than 3 lines continuously. So, she has to break it down into bullet points or follow minto pyramid principle..
I don’t regret the marriage per se but I’m an only child and I’m used to having a lot of personal space and enjoy time on my own I miss that. A lot
this is a very demotivational and sadistic post for those who may not have the best of marriages. I dont mean to infringe on anyone's right to freedom or expression but would be good to tone down on how good your married life is and how you have no regrets so that you are not putting salt on anyone else's wounds who may not have as great a married life as you. Its just my 2 cents...no offence
Well the post itself states do you have any regrets? So people who don’t are going to say how good their relationship is. If you wanted only stories that affirm that marriages are bad, maybe OP should have stated ( sad stories only )?
Yes, I regret it. We used to be good friends not just lovers. After marriage, have to deal with his folks who are very selfish. This has caused a huge dent in our marriage.
For me selfish in India
Not yet married but been living in with my girl for almost a year. Don’t regret it one bit. Love the partnership- she cooks, I do dishes. I do washing & drying and she irons etc 😀
Umm.. I don’t think washing / drying = ironing in terms of level of effort 🤨
Annoyed? No. She's my best buddy and we can talk about anything under the Sun sans filters. Also give each other shit.
Sure there are frictiins at times, but we always reach for each other if we need to vent or share. Been married @20yrs
yup
I do! I definitely do! I truly regret my decision of heeding to my parents call for this because of “log kya kahenge”. They thought of my marriage as on of their “duties” and if you are still wondering, mine was of course an “arranged marriage” because I was not able to convince my family otherwise. 7 years to my marriage, I am still hanging on - keeping the “log kya kahenge” thought still in my mind and trying to make my marriage work. I don’t know how long I can carry on. But I am trying to the best of my abilities.
This is the reality for many of us unfortunately
I don’t regret. It’s so beautiful to have someone come home to after hectic travel and work and someone with whom not only you share your secrets (though the myth is that husbands don’t listen) but also your life .. 🤷🏻♀️
why the assumption of regret? I've been living with my girlfriend for close to five years now and it's awesome. I haven't even lost my space because I have my few hours of 'me' time where I play video games or zone out alone or whatever.
I don’t think anybody is saying a marriage carries more weight, that is no where near what we are saying.
You’ll have to live through it to understand it. If you can stay in a live in without getting married that would be ideal.
@P1 to answer your question, BCG2 below sums it pretty well
No regrets at all.. married my best friend! Everyday is awesome! Been married for 5 years now.. but been in a relationship much longer!
Happy 😃. No regrets.
The responses to this post make me believe that one can be truly happy and satisfied if they find the right partner