Female associate here. My husband is pressuring me to have kids, and I'd love to, but I find it unwise and would prefer going down that path when I reach a more senior position. Anyone else?

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This is your decision. If you don't want to have kids right now, then no kids. End of discussion. Your husband should understand your decision to focus on your career. And since you're only an associate, I'm assuming you are still quite young.

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Janet Jackson just gave birth at 50. You've got time.

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You'll be a VP before you know it. And, yes, you will have more time for a family as the expectations of the job do change. I've never known an associate mother or father who's been able to cope. But It's par for the course as a Veep or D.

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There is definitely more to do but by the time you're there it will be easier because a) you have better perspective on the how and why and b) you'll have more people to delegate to. If you're a veep or above pulling late nights in the office regularly then the perception is that you're not doing your job and it actually looks poorly on you...my two cents for what they're worth

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Also keep in mind, babies are healthier coming from a mother who is <30 years of age compared to <40

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Having a baby in a few weeks - my husband and I were surprised but happy. My MD took me to lunch on Friday and told me having kids earlier in life will be better for my career if I plan to continue working. It will never be the right time so if you want kids, just have fun and do it.

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YOLO...🐣🐥...the younger you are the better

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Do you think Janet will live to see her child graduate? Raising kids takes energy.

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Do you think you'll be any less busy when you have more responsibility? Is the perceived career security from waiting worth giving up prime, uncluttered working years after the kid(s) is out of the house? (Assumes you want to work in your 40s/50s/60s).

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Hire a surrogate or freeze your eggs

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Relationships can be maintained over breakfast and lunch - clients don't want to spend all their time with bankers, they have families of their own!

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@VP2 - thank you! So far I've just seen promotion = more to do, but with some time flexibility.

Plus you're getting paid more so you can afford more help 🙂

Keep in mind, it gets more difficult to get pregnant as we age

Bullshit

That's a myth men say to keep women in their place. Women are fertile in their thirties.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/womens-health/10838177/Why-fertility-is-far-from-finished-at-40.html

VP2, how do you know she is not 30 yet? I am 31 and am an associate

I didn't say her age. But I am assuming that promotion to VP will happen between 29 and 39 otherwise you'll get pushed out before you hit 40. Fine, statistically (based on outdated data) women are more fertile and babies are healthier when the mother is young. But it's only marginal. And the marginal benefits are not worth stunting your career and having a child before you're emotionally and financially ready. Why the rush other than to make women feel guilty about yet another aspect of their bodies?

What's said husbands career?

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