Finding sobriety fairly challenging after being laid off. Hanging in there, though! Only bonus - more time for meetings and step work. Anyone else been through it? What was your game plan?

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I got fired a month into sobriety. I went to a ton of meetings during the day and a lot of fellowship like tons of hanging with other alcoholics because it kept me sane. Recommend sticking to your routine of waking up and hitting a morning meeting, afternoon, maybe night. Just do something to keep you busy. Get a sponsee (if you can)?

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I was laid off in May at a company I despised (not RGA). I remember waiting for my elevator after it happened and thought, “god is doing for me what I could not do for myself.” I went to a meditation meeting that night, did daily inventory and talked to my sponsor. If possible, I’d definitely read the 12 and 12 and figure out what step work you can do. It’s the last thing I want to do when upset, but steps and meetings really helped!!

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It’s an awesome opportunity to strengthen and deepen your sobriety, and it will pay off big time. I went through it and came out much better. I’m sending you a prayer my friend

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No experience, but you got this! One day at a time!

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I was so grateful I didn’t drink because it would have destroyed me. I knew that and it kind of terrified me.
This is a time to really focus and be innovative. You need all your energy all of your sharpest mind to call people and meet people and yes hustle. Coffee and walks and introspection you will come out in such a better place.

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I want EP1 to be my sponsor! 💜🧡💙

Thanks all, lots of good suggestions. Have a few interviews later this week, but definitely turning over the results to HP!

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My sponsor calls them FGOs — fuckin’ growth opportunities. When I got laid off in my fourth year, I did another 90 in 90. There was just nothing else for me to do, save sit around job hunting and feeling sorry for myself. It might suck for a minute. But you will get through it. And things will be good again

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Update: Found a decent gig at an agency near my house, starting next week. Guess there was no reason to worry, as usual. Thanks all!

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Congrats OP!

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