Have a meeting scheduled with my boss tomorrow with no explanation. Think I’m getting fired because I’ve been making mistakes recently. I’m not handling this well and I’m feeling tempted to use. I know if I do get fired I’ll be a mess.

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Hey.. I can tell you with 100% confidence that no matter what happens in that meeting the only thing will make your situation worse is if you use. Getting fired is a part of life sometimes, it sucks and it can have a massive effect on our confidence and rattle our motivation.. but it’s also an opportunity to grow, change and make moves.. sometimes when we should have but didn’t.. it forces us to get better. I hope everything works out for you.. being tempted to throw it all away and use is the natural thing to do.. it’s how an addict copes.. but, you have other options and in the end.. I swear.. just don’t pick up.

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Hang in there! that sounds like your addiction talking and looking for a reason and not you - if you don’t mind my suggestion, get to a zoom Mtg -I have to remember for myself that using is great for a couple hours and then I hate myself even more ! That makes me stay down the rabbit hole and it becomes a shit show- sending you a prayer

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Yeah, you’re right. Thank you! I haven’t been to a meeting but I guess I should check it out. Hopefully tomorrow is day 1. I know using won’t logically help, but I want to escape the feelings of failure I’m feeling. Thank you!

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OP, the good thing about a PIP is that now you know exactly what you need to do to succeed at work. Hang in there and take it one day at a time.

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Thank you!!! I’m really trying to improve and change and have made an action item list for myself of steps to improve and goals for the week and I’m going to schedule my first check in with my manager this week and I will draft an agenda for that meeting. I’m scared and the anxiety is really hard tbh and it makes the cravings worse. But I’m going to try and hang in. Thank you for the advice and kind words!

I was put on a PIP and I’m a mess.

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I’ve been put on a PIP... then my boss was fired and I was promoted. While that’s not the case for everyone, it’s not the end of the world. The company cares for you and see you’re struggling in some area(s) and want to help you. Try to see it as a positive thing.

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A PIP isn’t fired.. it could be worse.

How are you?

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Thank you! I need to improve on myself in many areas. I’m trying to see it as that.

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