Flyday thoughts: I'm a 💁🏼 who is attracted to 💁🏾‍♂️ guys. But the desi men I've dated have been more interested in casual hookups, not relationships. I'm not that kind of girl so it always fizzles out pretty soon. Are there 💁🏾‍♂️ out there who would be interested in a (potentially serious-ish) relationship with a white girl, and is there a way differentiate them from the guys just tryna get laid?

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OP real talk (if u real): your best bet is an ABCD (you should know what this means) or a desi desi who's trying waiting arnd for a green card
OP real talk (if u fakenews): good job entertaining

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@OP I just got engaged to my white girlfriend. Desi guys usually tend to marry desi because they don't want the complicated drama of dealing with their parents. I wanted to go with desi as well and only dated desi women but then I met my fiance on tinder that changed and my mom is cool with it but not my dad but then their.opinion doesn't matter in the long run. Its took a while of keeping it simple and easy. We just behaved like two people hanging out we took a logical approach. The point I am trying to make is be friend before you take the romantic route. Get to know the person and check compatibility and if they would be willing to go the distance and vice versa. Its easy to spot a desi mommas boy early on. Just keep it strictly friends in that case.

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Relax SA1rajnikant haha! I'm a desi guy as well. OP- please marry SA1, sounds like a great fit

@op there's an abundance of Indian men in NYC. Jersey guys are here all the time. 😂 Go to Sarvana Bhawan or Junoon - depending on your mood

@ey6 well Indian girls prefer the white men so 🤷🏽‍♂️

No SA1 said he wants a desi girl! He's on point with the advice though 👌🏻

EY5: haha.
Also, EY6: I guess shows like "Master of None" might be contributing to that cause too :p

OP- I see. I used to live there. But yeah, NY area is full of desis! Get on Dil Mil (not super efficient being location agnostic), Coffee Meets Bagel (very efficient, you can add filters to find desi guys) and Hinge (again, very efficient)..

Mck1: haha that's funny 😂 sorry mate, but I hate BS, and I know a lot of it comes from white douchebags.. my bad for generalising. Proven wrong :p

*tired

Well, bad advice again, Mck1. OP should not be entertaining the desi desi's who are just waiting on for a green card, and probably showing interest in marrying a US citizen just to get his green card. God, McK1! McKinsey should have an EQ interview round as well! Yours is negative I must say, sorry..

OP - if you're in NYC, happy to chat ! Fishbowburner13@gmail.com

@OP: one of the reasons that desi men confuse you could be that they are also in the process of finding someone whom they can connect with and some of them may also have a consideration for how it may go well with their parents.

Like someone said, most desi guys would wait for that first kiss. Also because of the cultural differences, don't be shy to be direct ( but polite) and ask how they feel.

Well I really wish you well coz I understand what you're going through

Maybe this is me, but for some reason I find white women intimidating in the dating scene, but no other races.

@SA1 drop a burner

D2- chicagodowntown11@gmail.com

EY5: haha, thanks bud

D2- don't wanna connect coz I'm in Chicago lol?

Lol Chicago is too cold for me..sorry :p

Lol.. I just moved here from NY. I am planning to move out in about 3 years. Works? :p

Naah 3 yrs is too long of a wait...maybe see ya after 3 yrs :p

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^Where are you at?

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