For the introverts, how do you (politely) set an expectation that you don't want to attend team hangouts beyond once a week? Current team dynamic is sensitive so prefer to avoid a direct convo.

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I often just say I have other commitments, which usually isn't untrue. People sometimes take the "I need solitude to recharge" thing personally.

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Just say sorry I can't I'm really boring I'm gonna go watch tv and be lame etc - it's self-deprecating so doesn't come off as being too good for them

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