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They may be looking for a LTR, but not necessarily with you. Effort reflects interest.
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And how would they get to that conclusion if they don’t know me yet? 😂
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I mean you do have to put the initial effort to get to know someone and then you can reach to that conclusion.
I attribute it to this: it’s like people who say “oh I want to lose weight” an hour later they’re eating ice cream.
That’s society today. Especially Western Culture.
If the person doesn't want to connect at all then imagine if you were in a relationship. Sounds like a bad time. If they aren't interested or ready then find someone who is. Since you've been looking for a while, I'd say stop focusing on it.
I've had 6 dates in the last 13 years and that's fine. Would've been a shittier 13 years with the wrong person and I have plenty more to find the right one.
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Once again you’re assuming. I recently stated again and the same thing happens 🙄if I tell myself that, I’ll never find anyone lol. If you don’t focus on something, you’ll never achieve it. Applies to everything in life.