Help me understand why executives lie and gaslight so often. I’m new to this and don’t feel comfortable doing it.

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There’s evidence that 30% of those in leadership positions fit the behavioral patterns of psychopaths / sociopaths. Low empathy is a hallmark of both.

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Thank you so much.

Sounds like the exec group you’re working with has issues. I work with a fairly transparent and supportive leadership team.

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@CIO Can you tell me what leadership retreat you did? We could use something like that!

Do you have examples you’ve struggled with? I just generally try to keep it straight with people. You are upset you didn’t get promoted or a salary increase? That sucks. This is what I would do if I was you or these are some strategies that we can work on together. If you aren’t able to disclose something… say you aren’t able to disclose it.

I've experienced something similar. Trust me, you are in a no-win situation vis a vis the golden boy. I strongly suggest you move on to another less toxic environment because, already, it is affecting you since you posted about this. I've been around the block a long time, so please help yourself by getting out.

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