Here's an interesting debate I would love your insights on. Ladies, if your husband earned enough, would you willingly give up your career to be a stay at home wife?

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Yes, no questions asked. You only have one opportunity to raise your children, rather than hiring a stranger to do it for you. Forming those bonds, relationships, core values. Creating memories. This is time that cannot be gotten back. My job is part of my life. My children are my life.

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I don’t think so. Having my own income,, savings, professional worth and sense of agency is important to me.

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Absolutely, yes. And for me, it’s already happening. I’ve officially put in my notice. My husband has backed me 1000%, especially because this choice is about my health and well-being.

This transition gives me the space to finally pursue my own business dreams, just as he’s already doing with his. We don’t have children, so this season of our life is about building, healing, and creating—together, but in our own ways.

Stepping away from a traditional career doesn’t mean giving up ambition. For me, it means redirecting it.

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Nope, Ive been down that road before, a man will change his mind about you right in the middle of you shopping for what's on your grocery list.

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Nope. There is nothing about being a stay at home wife that appeals to me. More power to those who want this and can do it however!

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A job yes, my chosen career, no. So far I've only had jobs, but if we had enough money to cover all bills, hire a pt sitter, and someone to clean the kitchen and bathrooms I'd 10,000% ditch any of the jobs I've had. But since that is $140k-$200k /year where I live not likely.

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My husband does make enough and I tried to be a SAHM but didn’t like it. I found jobs that let me bring my kids with me (school bus driver) and then when they were a little older I worked from home for several years. I just resigned from my WFH job and start my new in-office job tomorrow and I’m looking forward to it! Call me crazy. ;)

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Or men !
I’d love to take care of the home and kids.
House and yard would be immaculate!

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My wife has stated she dreams of this. If she made double her pay I'd be a stay at home dad. We've both had a layoff in the past so we got to semi experience it for a minute.

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In a heartbeat.

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The 1950’s dream!

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Enough money would have to be lottery level money, whic would mean we would both stay home......lol. My children are all adults now, but I was ready to go back to work after 8 weeks of maternity leave, so permanently at home is a hard "no" for me. I also had grandma as childcare, so I've never paid true childcare prices.

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Hell yeah

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As long as he contributed to my retirement acct to make up for the loss of the contributions and matching and lack of future career earnings, definitely.

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possibly as long as I could still work ! lol I mean maybe have a gift shop, be a realtor, something where I can make my own hours and a contributing member to society. and he'd have to make ALOT of money to support my shopping habits

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Mothers contribute to society! Our children are the future. Do not discount that!

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Yes!

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Nope. Too many unknowns in life. annintelligent woman will always make her ow money.

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If I was close to retirement sure.

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I worked at Amica, was one of the few males in the office. Many of my coworkers had husbands who were tradespeople who made decent money but no benefits. They were there for the benefits.

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Not on your life.

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