Hi all,
I seriously need help with a situation I got stuck in. I moved to another city for my new job few months ago, in my office there was another team's lead, who fell for me. He is married already. We became normal friends at first but now hecis so much into me, due to all the stress, I left that company and moved back to my hometown. I came to know that he suffered a minor heart attack after I left, he stopped going to office too.
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After being so much forced by him, I had to come back to the same city. Now he comes daily to meet me. I feel helpless, as I can't share it with anyone as I did some mistakes too. When I went to my home,at that time, he came to meet me in another state just for 1 day.
I seriously feel helplessness but I want to come out of this situation as he can go to any extent.

I think you have become involved with him to a certain extent, but you are not liking it now because he showed his weakness by having a heart attack, and he is not professional in his work. He has basically developed an obsession for you and can go to any extent. Now, all that you admired in the first place doesn't seem that good. I think you should clearly part ways from him, as it can develop into something much more complicated later on

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He will have to move on or this is going to become worse than that

Please suggest how can I part ways from him? Wherever I go, he comes around, even to my hometown.

Get a job in a different city and dont tell him. Change phone number.

Just msg him that u r not interested in him. And also tell him he should focus on his marriage. Afterwards just block him if he is too much obessed. In few months he will move on. N don't get scared if u have to share this with your family members like maybe siblings.
It's ok everyone makes mistake.
Even if he was not married I would say he is a red flag.

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