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It's such a hard balance to strike. I want to give my kids the best life possible, but it feels like if I'm serious about doing so, I've got to spend less time with them 😕
I completely get how you feel, I always feel like I'm somehow spreading myself too thin by wanting both. I've learned that there's going to be days where work may get neglected a bit and others where my mom duties may be neglected, but no matter what it's important to give myself grace and try to manage both to the best of my abilities and eventually everything will work out.
I dare say that many -- if not most -- of us in this bowl have been or are currently right there with you. It sounds like you are fairly young and just beginning your journey of motherhood. Even if you waiting until your late 30s or early 40s to have a child, this is one thing that age does not give an advantage. The first thing you MUST NOT do is take a guilt trip down the River of Doubt. Your responsibility is first and foremost to your children. Yes, that means helping them with homework. Yes, that means kissing their scraped knee. Yes, that means playing Barbie dolls or toy soldiers when you'd rather be watching your favorite TV show. It also means providing financial security to ensure a nice home and all that is needed to give them a safe, healthy, and happy family environment. It isn't easy. If it were, it wouldn't be as valuable.
It is very hard even with aging parents. I can’t imagine how hard it is with kids. However, it has been done.
Give yourself lots of grace. A happy, empowered mom means happy kids.
OP I know most of us have been there and it really is hard to balance. I try to have work life balance but at the same time my career is important. My husband is very supportive and we seem to balance everything out but it is difficult at times.