How do you deal with a negative mother in law? My MIL constantly picks on me, calls me names, my husband had talks with her to set up boundaries but doesn't seem like she even respects her own son. She started with little passive aggressive comments but now she says mean things to others about me, says I am changing her son, constantly calls me manipulative, liar, narcissistic. I asked my husband why he is not doing more to stand up to his mom, he said he is afraid of her, the whole family is.

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If you set reasonable boundaries and they’re not respected, you probably have to resort to limiting contact. Although I would question why your husband is afraid of his own mother - it sounds like there’s a need for therapy there for him to deal with that. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this - she sounds like a very difficult person.

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My husband is afraid of his mother as well, so I stand up for myself now she blocked me and does not want us to visit her or to come to our house lol…this is what I call a happy ending lol

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It's important that you stand up for yourself. Not only with her but with your husband. He is an adult and needs to understand that his mother may be mean but you are his now and future, that anyone treating you like that should not be allowed and as your partner he needs to be by your side while you stand up to her. My mother is the same way and I took action to my own hands and I haven't spoken to her in 5 hears. I'm happy and healthy and healing.

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