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It's been 9 years. Still can't date seriously
I'm not looking for a beautiful person. I'm looking for a person with a beautiful heart.
About 2 months, but I ended the relationship which is means I came to terms with the break up before it. I think that is a huge factor. We were together almost 3 years.
I wanted to get back out there and know what I want more than ever now, so why delay looking for it? That’s how felt and when I knew I was ready to start dating again
General rule of thumb for me is when I’m looking forward to dating someone for who they are and what they bring to the table, rather than than trying to compensate for lacking the comfort and routine of being in a relationship. A few months give or take for me.
I’m sure everyone is different and everyone has a different story, but in general would you say it’s better to only try dating again when you feel certain you’re ready, or is it better to put yourself back out there anyway and just see what happens?
Put yourself out and gage how you feel to adjust. Thats how I did. But don't expect it to be a quick journey :) Ping me if helpful I just been through this recently
Broke up with ex in July. Jump to today and I’m already in love with someone else. My goal wasn’t to date and I was just looking to find some casual partners. One of those casual encounters just stood out so much and has consistently felt right for me. I did not think I was ready to date when we met a month after the breakup but now I feel it worked out how it should have.
Nearly 5 years 🥴
I'm sure everyone will say it's different for everyone.
Personally, taking a break as long as you need is advisable, whether it's a week, month, year.
The longer you give time to heal yourself, better it'll be for dating in future
You can’t fully heal while single because you’re not being exposed to potential triggers. Once you realize that you’re whole, deserving of love, and lovable as a person, you’ll be “healed” but you have to do the work and date to get there.
It depends on the length of the relationship. I’ve found ~2 months of healing for every year that you were together to work for me.
One year to avoid any rebound tendencies and to give yourself enough time to process why it didn’t work out. Sometimes it’s clear why it didn’t work out, but often it’s a complicated web of past traumas, triggers, attachment style differences, propensity to date certain types, etc. Unless these are clearly identified and resolved, the next relationship will be a rebound, repeat, or at least a band aid.
Took me three years after the divorce was finalized
Me after realizing that am okay to move on
I need some one l could love but am so lonely
Well I broke up with them. I was already mentally moved on from the relationship when I ended it
Started dating pretty much immediately but just casually. Found someone 6 months later !