I am a detective and soon I may be promoted to the police captain, but right now I have a relationship with one of my subordinates, do you think this is the right time to say it, or should I say it after I get the position, I am a woman and maybe that can play against me.

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End it immediately unless yall are getting married in which case he must transfer.

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It depends on your agency's policies.

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If you value your career, you must immediately inform management or HR of your relationship. Don't wait and let them discover the truth for themselves. Never attempt to hide it. There will always be someone who will become suspicious of you and try to blackmail or rat you out.

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If your employer has an HR department, inform them right away that you are involved with a team member and that the relationship existed before you were promoted. They can arrange for you and your partner to have separate reporting lines, to have one person's department changed, or even to have your promotion rescinded.

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I think you have to be upfront now. Or else you will give ammunition to people who may wish for your downfall. As a female being put in a high power position you either already have or will have lots of jealous men and women, enemies, around you.

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Follow your agency’s policy and be integrity driven and upfront. Yes it will have negative backlash but be careful in your decision making or end it all together.

In most cases when you mix relationships with work you always fail your duty in my position I won't support your decision coz relationships always sabotage us in our line of duty since we deal with chain of commands

If the corporate policy prohibits dating, you risk losing your job if your superiors learn about it; they are unlikely to care whether you dated before or after receiving a promotion.

It might take extra effort from you two to demonstrate that there is no favoritism. In other words, he ought to be the team's hardest worker. And you should chip in and help out with some of the non-supervisory chores, especially when there is an abundance of work and not enough people to complete it.

Management will either ignore the situation or move your partner to another department or shift so that you are no longer in charge of them.

Oh no!

It really depends. Some agencies are strict when it comes to this matter. You might want to check your agency's policies.

Do not say anything yet. Check your agency's policy first. Some agencies are okay with this stuff.

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