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Are USO puts a good idea rn?
I’m not sure how this will impact this bowl, but it is worth pointing out the need to assess whether there should be concern for those in this bowl. While we all understand ADHD is something attorneys are completely capable of managing with legal positions, not everyone in the field agrees with that. https://joinfishbowl.com/post_va66ztgmkw
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I feel for you brother. Typical entitled Indian female. Feminists will come shouting and barking at this reply but gonna answer it all the same. Current situation in India is stacked against males due to laws which harm families way more than they can support. Women can make you dance and twirl in whatever way they like.
There was a time when patriarchy ruled the roost in India and I completely understand the situation women faced. Most men today in India want nuclear families, want to create and nurture their families and do what they can for their wives and kids. But women gladly forget that somebody nurtured the men they are married to for half of their lives. They want nothing to do with your family or friends even though they might be thousands of miles away. But apply the same logic to their families and friends, they will go ballistic. They will ask you to forego everything but will do everything for their parents and families even though her lot might be toxic as hell. There is no equality in marriage, men can contribute to household work, support in childcare and manage the bulk of finance but you will never be good enough as her father who might not have done any of these things.
Trust me, you are better off without her. Find someone who is not Indian, those women are beautiful, kind and logical. Forget societal pressure, finances, it didnt work for you first time, why should it work now. These women love you with everything, not for how much you earn, how much property you have. Also, be careful of how much involvement parents have in your life, keep it minimal and respectful. Set respectful boundaries on both sides from thr start. In the end, your happiness matters above all.
Divorce and find yourself a working and middle class girl instead of papa ki pari
Genuine suggestion would be to take a break while maintaining respect of all involved and try to mend this relationship, at times it’s more of ego. For any relationship we need to keep our ego at backseat. Wishing you the best!
She is asking to get assets transferred and seperated from family !
I asked her to do same, she bolted
I told her I am ready to move out with her leaving behind my parents to my siblings, but if they ain't be with me, I won't let her parents involved too.
She should leave her inheritance and I'll leave mine and we will start fresh on our own.
She went back to her house and said nothing.
What should I make out of it !
Multiple reconciliation attempts were made.
I am ready to have her
Just the same expectations like hers.
Whatever is applicable to me should be applicable to her too.
Interestingly, her parents understood my stance and tried to convey her
She wants me but with privileges
Dude
We stayed alone in another city.
We had maid and all appliances at home including cook
Never asked her money when she was working. Both of us didn't do any chores ever.
Gifted lakhs of rupees items and products
I went blind expecting this is not going to happen to me !
When we moved to our house for festive season, she went insane.
Why can't I visit my roots in festive season and on special occasion dude...
I guess it was my mistake to have got carried away and provided her everything. She doesn't value me I guess.
Swear brother it went in dark hole.
I don't see anything that will make me want her around myself.
Happened multiple reconciliation attempts but now it seems it's just me who is crazy enough to dig my own grave.
Not sure bro
I don't agree with arranged marriages, but that's not my culture. Your initial question and followup addition are a bit confusing, but I think I get the gist. Advice: Review the good things about her. Make a list. Think back as to what started the current discord. Is it something that you two can come back from? Be realistic in your expectations. There won't be fireworks every night -- or, maybe, ever. That is just a small fraction of what a marriage is about anyway. Don't fool yourself into thinking you can do much better than her. You most likely will not be able to attract a supermodel to share your life with. You might be able to attract a daytime stripper to come home with you until your paycheck is spent. Unless there is abuse, infidelity, addiction or some other adverse lifestyle issue involved, it is no reason to abandon the promises you made to each other when you married. Don't get bent out of shape over little things. Discuss big things (like when or whether to have children) calmly and rationally without yelling, screaming and crying. Never threaten to "walk out and never come back" unless you are ready to do it as soon as you stop talking. When God made Eve, He said, "It is not good for man to be alone." If you don't believe a single other word in that book, believe that.
Not talking about finances or partner, but it doesn’t guarantee that new partner will look after you, ur family or finances the same way she does.. I know people fight, they don’t want to go back because of ego.. well, I would say take some time and try to work on marriage .. people want peace , this divorce will drain you physically mentally emotionally and financially.. fights can be solved but divorce will not have impact only in present but in future too.. I am talking from my experience.. so kindly work on your marriage, it could be hard for now but for sure it will be very good for the future .. nobody stands by you except your wife when actually needed , you will get to know this once u are at the age of 60..