I checked out tonight, I had a breakdown, things falling apart in my marriage and I just had to shut my computer. I had several things due today but I just couldn’t do it. How bad is the damage? I don’t even know what to tell people for me going MIA

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Just say family emergency. No need to explain. Happens to the best of us.

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Agree with everyone. Things happen.

I had an outside counsel from a top firm blow deadline after deadline with me. She supposedly got sick and then broke her foot and then her radiator broke all in one month. I was angry as hell, but forgave her and let her finish the project. This happened over a month on a small, but time sensitive, project and was my first time working with her. If I can forgive my outside counsel for blowing me off for a whole month, your partners can forgive you for a night and a day. Or more.

Take some time off. It sounds like you and your marriage could use it. (Sorry about the marriage, btw.) Just tell ppl you had a personal emergency and need a couple days off.

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Sending you a hug and Kleenex if you need it. You don’t need to explain to anyone just say it was an urgent personal matter. Take tomorrow off too, if you need it. Or just monitor emails from the couch.

Tomorrow is a new day. Please take care of yourself. 💗

PS - This was me last night; ignoring deadlines and fire drills. Honestly I don’t thin anyone noticed. If they did they didn’t say anything.

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I’m sorry things are tough. It’s no good when the marriage is falling apart. Just tell people you had a family emergency. And I’d recommend counseling - do it individually and also couples, if your spouse is willing. Saving a marriage is hard enough to do without being a practicing lawyer. If your firm has mental health leave, I’d highly recommend taking it for this.

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So many hugs. The damage? Very minimal. Honestly, most partners won’t even notice if you find some time tomorrow to do it and not say anything about blowing the deadline. If they promised something to the client, just let them know you had a personal emergency and the updated timing for your work.

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I’m so sorry your going through this. Take some personal time from work. I promise you it will be ok.

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