I have a friend of over 25 yrs. We barely hang out or communicate but she typically invites me to events to celebrate her birthdays/accomplishments. I normally go but most times regret it because I feel like for over two decades our friendship isn’t really existent. Continued in comments.

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I often felt judged/small around her in my young adult years. We were close growing up but I think we bonded through trauma/desperation in the beginning.

Many times I’ve thought she only calls me as a backup when other plans failed but isn’t REALLY interested in my life, ya know?

I’ve tried to move on once but then felt so horrible that I reached out and we started hanging out again.

Basically I am torn between trying to be a good friend or just slowly removing myself from her life. Is that wrong…?

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