I have unfortunately been put on a PIP. I’m 16 weeks pregnant and struggled a lot the past months with sickness and very low morale. I found myself making mistakes and missing details. Plan is to resign while on maternity ( UK based so I get a year out) as I don’t think I have a future here anymore. At the moment I’m struggling mentally so bad. Not much point to this just a rant to you fellow mums

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Just try to remember what is most important in life. That little life you're carrying already loves you. Jobs come and go....you'll figure that part out.

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Thank you v much! Will def do

Frankly, placing any person on a PIP, when it’s obvious they’re experiencing a life change is cruel. In your case, the obvious life change is pregnancy. Speaking from my personal experiences:

1. Don’t expect yourself to perform at pre-pregnancy levels. You’re growing a whole human. It’s exhausting.
2. You’re growing a whole human. Hard work is happening every single second. Give yourself some grace and love.
3. You’re growing a whole human (see a trend?), he or she is what’s most important. And, of course, your health.
4. Don’t know what employment laws are like in UK, document everything. Is a PIP required for what you missed? Are they trying to get rid of you?
5. Despite 4. If you can, leave and take care of yourself and prepare yourself for post baby.
6. Don’t let anyone steal the joy and privilege of becoming a “mum”. And don’t let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. You’re growing a whole human.

CONGRATULATIONS! and Best wishes.

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You welcome. It usually comes down to the manager. I’ve had horrible managers who were women with children. CRAZY. This is a time to learn to “mama bear.” I had challenges at work when I was pregnant both times. By the 2nd pregnancy I knew how to fight for myself and I had the confidence to handle things better. I wish when it first happened that I didn’t allow it to steal the joy of being pregnant with my baby. I was going home in tears every day. Don’t allow that to happen to yourself.

When I think about it, that employer with my first pregnancy tried to put me on a PIP. I could tell it was bogus and I refused to sign it. I called “bulls$!?” and walked out that the room and drove home crying.

Don’t allow this to happen to you. I really hope things will get better. I have some family in Liverpool. I’ll ask them to come give you some backup. 😂😂

Congratulations! Sorry I don’t know how it works where you re at but in the states it’s better to be laid off than resign because you can get unemployment and a severance package, just a consideration if relevant … for context I’m in US and was laid off on Mat leave and it was a blessing. Shocking at first but so happy.

I’m interested in this as I feel I am being given impossible conditions in an attempt to force me to resign. What type of severance package did you get and what was your unemployment benefit?

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