I just found out I am pregnant and the person is not a believer. I know i have sinned, and now i am so lost. Abortion has crossed my mind multiple times. Not sure what i am doing posting here, I just needed to vent.

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Thanks so much for posting here and being honest! You’re awesome!! Know that God loves you and is there for you. I know things might seem overwhelming - but in spite of failure, God will use this for good! You have a LIFE in side of you! What a huge blessing! I pray that you’d see it as the major blessing it is. This will not be easy, but nothing worthwhile ever is. My prayer is that God would clearly show you what joy awaits you and how incredibly loved you are.

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I agree that posting here had a purpose. God loves you. No matter what. Don’t listen to a voice of shame. Romans 8:37-39.
Pregnancy can be a mistake but a baby never is a mistake. He or she will be an enormous blessing. And I completely understand your feelings. I found myself pregnant against all medical odds at 37, just as I had determined my significant other had serious issues I was not sure how to deal with. God makes the path and the way. He will be there and will provide. And He loves you!

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As a product of a “mistake” and unplanned pregnancy, I am so thankful that my parents did not abort me. God can do immeasurably more than we can ask for or imagine. He is famous for taking hopeless and confusing situations and working them for his glory.

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God created us in His image. All humans sin and fall short, but children are never mistakes.

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Just know that you are your own person and can make your own choices in life. Don't let anyone tell you what you can and cannot do

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Well the Christian life isn’t you and your Bible sitting under a tree...sorry if you think anything other than that is totalitarian

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OP, can you share with us how you are doing? How you’re feeling? Do you need a prayer parent or an ear? How can we help you?

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First of all, you get to make your own choices. These choices won’t be easy on the road you have ahead of you. Know that God is walking with you on that road and He has your back. I would offer that your child is already so loved by so many couples who want to adopt and have been praying for your child before s/he was ever conceived. S/he will have a bright future and an amazing life if you are able to permit it. I know the next 6 mos will be extraordinarily tough and there will be times of trial and shame but, if you can endure, your child and his or her parents will be so blessed. And so will you. You will look back on this sacrifice as one of the most significant you were able to make in your life, and always feel good about it . Subjecting our own pride for the greater good is so hard. But it is transformational. God be with you as you choose your path.

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Please consider all alternatives other than abortion. Your child hasn’t done anything wrong. There are crisis pregnancy centers and lots of good families / agencies that would adopt. DM me if you need help looking for local options

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Easy for us to comment here without knowing you and bc there are not real consequences for us.

First, let me say I hope you’re emotionally ok. I can imagine what you’re going through. Had something similar myself.

You can’t let us make the decision for you, but hopefully we can share our perspectives for you to consider.

Did abortion cross your mind because you don’t want the child? Or did it cross your mind because your child could grow up with a father who doesn’t believe?

You seem concerned of having sinned, wouldn’t having an abortion be another sin? If so, would that concern you? I haven’t had one so can’t speak to what it feels like after, but I can’t imagine it would be an easy feeling to handle. Of course, having a child is a big responsibility, but there are help centers / adoption centers that can help with the child’s placement.

For what it’s worth, it seems like it would be easier to live with knowing you kept the child alive, offered him up for adoption, and growing up like God would want vs. living with the knowledge that you willingly ended a baby’s life.

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Thinking about you OP and sending ❤️

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I can’t imagine how you feel. I’m catholic and I am pro choice bc I believe we are all given a “choice.” However, this is another beings life and it can be the most beautiful being in your life.

I’m thinking of you and sending prayer vibes your way.

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