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My son throughout his life would smell bad. Many years we talked with him and helped him fight feet smells and just manly type smells in general. He sweats while doing nothing. Like a puddle of water under his bare feet.
Fast forward when he turned 30.
He was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis and has neurological issues.
One day we realized that his neurological issues including his sense of smell and his sweating was another disorder. His father’s side of the family has lots of neurological issues on the men side.
I hope that the first mindset of someone who has an issue isn’t negative. There can be many issues known and unknown that contribute to someones abilities and circumstance.
So, I leave you all with this. Be nice and kind to everyone.
If you’re too nervous about straight up saying it, I would first start with small things like, “do you want some perfume?” or “do you want some deodorant?” I personally would automatically jump to the thought that I need it if my friend was saying things like that to me, so that might kickstart her being more cautious of it.
I definitely think you need to say something, though. I’d hate for you to be out with your other friends or something and they get that first impression of her.
“I’ve tried this new deodorant that’s a game changer. What deodorant do you use?”
This! HIGHLY recommend Lume.
Our daughter had very challenging body odor, (to the point I was concerned enough to ask her pediatrician) it has Mandelic Acid, and kills the bacteria vs masking the scent or impeding the sweat gland.
Also sometimes liver or kidney problems can present as offensive odor; look at this as making sure she's healthy; it is part of being a good friend.
Say it and make sure you are human about it. Tell her how much you were worried about sharing it with her because you understand it is upsetting to hear, tell her you know it may she may want some time alone for a bit and it’s okay.
If she is your friend, I would suggest that you tell her in a very kind and conversational way.
I would say that I wanted her to know that some of the other people that have been around her mentioned that she had an odor.
Maybe suggest what she can use to help, such as Lume.
I think she probably has a bad reaction to deodorant or uses an all-natural kind that doesn't work. When you broach the subject, do it in a one-on-one basis where no one else can hear the conversation and be very sensitive and gentle in your approach.
Be truthful. But in the right way. Most women know when they smell. She probably already knows. A true friend cares. If she is offended, then you will know what type of person and where your friendship stands. Believe me, I would value that feedback over someone talking about me behind my back. But thay takes maturity.
I am not clear on what part of her body smells. Pits, Cooch or Feet? All three could be a contributing factor, thus different solutions.
Also,
1. Are you sure that she is washing her body at least once a day? Asking because of this new world trend of bathing like ever 2-3 days
2. Is your friend obese? Severely overweight people need to take extra precautions ( per my 600 lbs Life)
Lastly, forget what your husbands says. Ain’t no way, I am in public with someone who stinks