I referred an old coworker of mine to my current company and I received a referral bonus. He started this week and just now asked me if I will give him any of the bonus. I would have been fine with that if we discussed it during his interview process, but we never did. I feel like since we didn’t establish that he would get any beforehand, it seems unfair that he’s asking for something now. He even received a nice signing bonus. Thoughts on whether I should split the referral bonus?

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Send him this thread, I bet he'll stop asking and invite you to dinner to celebrate!

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He must be joking, right? I’d just laugh at him and say “no way buddy- take a hike”. I’d be taking him for a drink tho. I wouldn’t discuss it at all with him. If he ever asks again, just laugh at him and say:- “my referral bonus is none of your business…you scab”

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Plus say “then you share your signing bonus with me- so we’re even.”

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It’s not discussed prior, no need to share

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Nah, you gotta talk about that upfront before the referral is even made and depends how close that friend is with you.

And definitely not if you gotta clean them up prior to the interview (actually they should split signing if this is the case)

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Lol I’d never refer someone who expects me to split referral bonus.

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At most, you owe him drinks

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He owes you, not you owe him. You did him a favor by referring him

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Just reply “lol”

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He owes you! Not the other way around! You kidding?!

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Referral bonuses are for employees who refer job applicants to the company--not to the new hires themselves. Signing bonuses are for the new hires themselves. Just like you wouldn't ask him for a portion of his signing bonus, he shouldn't ask you for part of your referral bonus. That's a pretty outlandish request on his part. Do not share your employee referral bonus. And I hope he takes you to lunch for recommending him to your organization! -- Former CHRO, Nickelodeon

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He shouldn’t have asked, at most I would of taken him out for drinks but since he asked after he ain’t getting nothing.

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This is so strange! And the nerve. You don’t owe him anything. And stay away from this person.

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5k for a referral bonus 😩

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Yeah that is wild

Just respond with - ‘😅😅 shouldnt you be taking me out for dinner to celebrate??’

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What a weird thing to ask someone. Hell no.

Also, remember this as you deal with the person in the future. It’s very telling of their character.

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You don’t owe this person anything

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Tell home you’ll split the referral bonus if he splits the signing bonus.

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I recently was referred by an old coworker to return to a previous company. I definitely did not ask for his bonus. Rather I sent him a $200 gift in gratitude for getting myself visible to the hiring manager, I did the rest.

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You are not supposed as it would be a bribe. Say no.

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Wtf type of social idiocy is your "friend" you make it easier for him to get employed and he feels entitled to a referral bonus. That's not how referral bonuses work. That bonus is yours. Don't share it with the leech. Dude sounds greedy af. Reminds me of a friend I had to sever relationship with because he wanted me to pay for everything when we went out

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Omg, the audacity he has. Can you refer me? I will even buy you a dinner if i got the offer.

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You help them level up their life and this is their reaction? Utterly toxic reaction that lacks any sense of judgment

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Just say you never got one

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Lol. That would be a no.

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