I referred an old coworker of mine to my current company and I received a referral bonus. He started this week and just now asked me if I will give him any of the bonus. I would have been fine with that if we discussed it during his interview process, but we never did. I feel like since we didn’t establish that he would get any beforehand, it seems unfair that he’s asking for something now. He even received a nice signing bonus. Thoughts on whether I should split the referral bonus?

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Send him this thread, I bet he'll stop asking and invite you to dinner to celebrate!

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He must be joking, right? I’d just laugh at him and say “no way buddy- take a hike”. I’d be taking him for a drink tho. I wouldn’t discuss it at all with him. If he ever asks again, just laugh at him and say:- “my referral bonus is none of your business…you scab”

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Plus say “then you share your signing bonus with me- so we’re even.”

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That’s greedy. I assume he’s getting a pay increase in addition to the 5K signing bonus and he STILL wants some of your referral bonus?

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Hell no. You got him a job. He owes you a nice dinner.

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Pretty Greedy lol

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No cash amigo - bottle of booze as a welcome gift or dinner. Also, red flag so keep your distance.

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Lool keep it for yourself. I got referred and could never ask that.. They got me the job.

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Dude that’s crazy, never do that!

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I referred a friend of mine to my current employer. She received a 20k pay raise. She told me that she was getting me something as a “thank you’. I told her that wasn’t necessary but she insisted. I told her that I’d like a pair of small gold hoop earrings. She sent me a gorgeous set of 14k gold earrings that cost about $250. I just received my $2,500 referral bonus today.

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Don’t split it. That’s not his money at all. Thanks to you, he has a new job. If anything, he should buy YOU a drink.

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Do not split. You buy him a beer when you get the bonus. Also, the bonus is a damn job.

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He sounds unreasonable. He got a $5k signing bonus. And you got him a job. If anything, he should be paying g you. This is a hard no, absolutely not.

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No splitting the bonus. He has employment and a signing bonus. He used you. He’s not a friend.

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Simple no. You referred him when you didn't need to. The reward for that is solely yours. For the person to even ask that speaks volumes.

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Sure! Split the referral if he splits his salary

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Ummm NO.

Maybe he should split his sign on bonus.

Oh hey wanna sign up for this cool new credit card? Maybe we should ask all the bloggers to split their points with us if any of us clicked their referral links.

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Eff that. Dude gets zilch

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No. He has a new job with a (presumably) higher salary. You’ve already helped him.

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World is full of ungrateful, greedy c**ts.
Pardon my french.
He should be the one thanking you.
Good manners and common sense is dying out.

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That’s ridiculous! It’s a “referral bonus”
Not a sign on bonus.. what’s up with people these days?! Entitled!

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Time to ask him to split his salary raise and sign on bonus now

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So when I applied to a job recently, my friend was very strict about using a specific link to apply etc. and of course I knew there was a bonus for him. But the way I look at it is that I wanted a new job and his trust in my abilities and his ability to bring in a qualified candidate saved the company time so they rewarded him for helping the HR folks find good people. I win because I got in with a great company and soon I can refer people I trust on my own and can get a bonus too.

Fast forward a few months and my friend just got laid off and that money goes to putting food on the table.

Bottom line - the new hire is a jacka$$ and doesn’t deserve a penny of the referral bonus. Tell them to recruit their contacts if he wants a bonus.

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