I was put on a PIP at work and decided to quit before they could fire me. I managed to not let my ADHD get in the way of my professional growth for several years but eventually found myself struggling to consistently meet expectations (combination of insufferable type A coworkers, feeling uninspired and the nationwide med shortage).

I can't get over feeling incredibly ashamed, discouraged and ultimately unfit for corporate life. Anyone else in the same boat / any advice on how to move forward?

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I've literally been there and dealt with the exact same thing. It's tough. Most people don't realize the daily struggle we go through just to function like other people and they can be frustrating how much they don't understand and take being neurotypical for granted. For me, it made me realize that I need to be a little bit more picky about the kind of environments I can work in. For example, I can't do micromanagement. It gives me so much anxiety and paralysis that I know I'm going to fail. So in interviews, I started asking how involved my manager would be, or if my job would have some autonomy and freedom. If they gave me the indication that my manager's entire job would be watching me, I would say thank you, but no thank you. It's all about figuring out what you need in order to succeed and then advocating for those things.

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I've been trying to find a place I fit and coworkers that are flexible and understanding but still follow up to check on work and assign bite sized chunks.
I've found that micromanage doesnt work for me, I will shut down completely but also if I feel like I dont exist or dont matter I also fall behind. It's not an easy mix to find. But try to find things in your work that you can use your hyperfocus to work on

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Better to be fired. Otherwise, you may not be able to collect unemployment.

Praying that you find a role that suits you. I left a toxic place for a really cool, smaller company where I don’t need to watch my back.

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I have been where you are. The biggest thing that changed for me was being put on medication though. It has helped me tremendously in managing the day to day.

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I am struggling so much with this right now, too. I think that I was better in an ICU setting than a clinic. In the ICU, my attention issues actually were a plus, because I was always darting around the unit, checking on patients, responding to alarms, etc. Now I am in a clinic seeing up to 26 patients per day. I literally hate sitting behind a computer, listening to people complain all day, and trying to form some kind of cohesive clinical note from an old man ranting about society because he knows damn well that I’m too nice to interrupt him. The patient who talks nonstop puts me completely behind, I get frazzled as the notes pile up, and then I shut down. The problem is that I need to work 9-5 clinic hours right now because my daughter needs me the most. I can’t work crazy hospital hours for at least another few years, at which time my daughter can drive herself to and from school. I am so miserable and no amount of medication in the world can make me lock in every day all day at my current job. I need a solution!

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I have tried to use the AI program we have at our office and it sucks. It also totally changes the whole interaction I have with my patients and it’s so awkward. I really do appreciate the advice though. I am also kind of leery of AI writing my notes. I don’t like the thought of being recorded. I have a bad feeling about AI charting and the consequences. I think it’s a great tool for a lot of things, but it’s also creepy.

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I was there and still there tbh struggling to keep up with demands at work, esp with people. So tough that my brain shut down (suddenly couldn’t remember anything) so I was forced to take a leave. Came back only after weekly therapy and being on meds. So yeah. There are ways to cope but maybe also a new environment could be refreshing too if you know what that may look like.

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I feel your pain. But I haven’t quit and still trying to catch up. I know I am good at this job, and I care about the work. The things said in my PIP were 90% subjective. It’s a tough economy and I’m on the revenue development side. I was a star last year and the year before- this year they want to know what’s changed, why I lost confidence and focus…. Government spending, consumer confidence, the economy.

I’m a sole provider for my family. I wish I could hibernate, but I can’t. I’m so burned out.

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