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The new company I’m at now sent me an email from an email address that was HR@companyName.careers saying I was accepted for the position. They gave me paperwork to fill out and sign to accept the position
I fill out the paperwork and send it back to them and it goes through… then a few days later I go back to the email to say something else and I get this…?
Then today I got a check from the company In the mail to setup my home office, and it’s signed by someone I’ve never met before or heard of…?
What…..

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The best decision I made was move to another state at 29. I took a chance on a new job, in a city I always wanted to live it. I wanted a fresh start after a break up. I knew it wouldn’t be easy and there would be some lonely days while making new friends. My career and life flourished. I also experienced personal development and emotional growth as I pushed myself outside of my comfort zone.
As long as you have secured a job and you’re able to afford rent in the new city, there is nothing to lose. Do research and prepare for the move. Take a chance on yourself!
Rising Star
I was 23 the first time I moved to a new state where I didn’t know anyone. Did it again at 45 - although in that case I was moving to make a long distance relationship not be long distance.
Is your mother able to explain why it’s “not good” other than you won’t be near her? Is it that she just worries about you? Is there a rational explanation for her concern (because it sounds like it’s more about her fear than anything else)?
Live the life you want; not the one someone else wants you to.
I moved to a big city many states away from my home state at age 28. Best decision, life changing and no regrets.
But that said my advice is not to run from something or think a simple change of zip code will heal you if you have unresolved trauma, mental health issues or other things you are working on. You are bringing yourself with you. The location won’t cure you on its own, you still need to do the work.
My sister completely changed careers and started grad school in a new city at 31. Then when she graduated she moved to a completely new city in February 2020 at 34. While finding friends was obviously tough at that time, she did and really enjoys where she lives now. Go for it!
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I moved across the country knowing nobody for work. Best decision I’ve ever made.
I moved across the country at 41 and I am so happy in my new city. If YOU want to do it, you should. It’s your life to live, no anybody else’s.
I moved countries every couple of years for the past 10 years. Even though it may feel like it, you won’t be starting at square 1, especially if you have a job. And it’ll give you a lot of confidence in yourself.
Depends on where you move to
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I moved across the country alone at 30 to start a new remote job (no office but required to be in CA). This just turned 37; still in socal, have a gaggle of close friends, fun hobbies, met the love of my life and have fully flourished. It wasn’t easy but it’s possible! The grass is greener where you water it! 💐. Good luck op!
Try it out and if you don’t like move back. If you regret your decision so what lesson learned
Your life your decisions your living with the outcomes
Trust you’re gut.
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Also early 30s and I just did it a little under a year ago. Several states away from where I was born and lived my whole life. Making new friends has been the hardest part but I have made some through work and connections of my friends in the state I left (‘oh I remotely work with someone in your area - you’d probably get along’ sort of situations that branch from there). I miss my loved ones very much and have made it a point to fly back a couple times, but I’ve yet to regret it. It hasn’t been easy, but it’s been worth it.
I left my small hometown years ago and had a great job for that region and people thought I was nuts for leaving because they couldn’t see that I wanted more in life. Best decision I ever made was to move and raise my kids in a more vibrant area of the county and a place that has so much more to offer intellectually and professionally. You can always move back home if you don’t like it but I think change is a good thing