If a girl rain checks two separate dates in a row but follows up with “I still really want to do that date” - Is she just trying to let me down easy and doesn’t want to come out and just say no?

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Don’t ask a third time. Turn it around on her and ask her to reach out when she has time but drinks are still on you or sth etc…

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So I'm in the exact same situation as you and that girl, OP. The guy I'm talking to has tried to meet up twice and I said no because I wasn't ready. He's confident/knows exactly what he wants and I'm introverted and kinda self conscious/shy. I'm very interested in this guy but I'm not sure it's coming across that way. He asked to meet a third time and I suggested a date this time.. for a few weeks out to mentally prepare lol.

I think it varies from person to person, but at some point, you've gotta put the ball in her court so that she knows to either make a move or you'll be gone. That realization will really get the ball movin' 😅

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Update - as I went back home for holidays. She left it at “I will see you when you get back”. Meaning I still don’t think she will initiate a date or time ever. The 3rd will definitely still be on me

So there it is, OP. She's not interested. Stop banging your head against the wall and move on.

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She is likely looking for better options but want to string you along as a plan b (or c or d or e). Why couldn’t she go the first two times (work, sick, something that makes sense)? If she really wanted, she would have found time.

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