I’m a 29 year old guy with high functioning autism. Honestly I haven’t dated much. Never kissed a girl, never had sex. I’ve been on some dates but honestly autism makes flirting, sexual stuff and intimacy very awkward for me and I lack confidence in those areas. Do you think seeing an escort is a good idea for me, as like an educational experience? I have my life together outside of this decent job, look fine, etc.

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This is my own perspective/opinion as a woman. When you meet the right girl, she won’t care that you’re not experienced. If she likes you for who you are as a person, that’s what matters the most. Most of our most intimate moments with others don’t involve sex. I would say focus on improving who you are as a person, and be the best version of yourself. The more attention you put on having sex, the less focus you’ll put on the things that matter the most. Good luck on your journey!

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Mmm escort no, I agree with sexual therapy to help you gain understanding and maybe just being open on your dates (when you think it may be heading in a sexual direction) that you’re not sexually experienced and don’t know what to expect /do. The right woman will teach you, we all have to teach our partners what we like in some sort of way 🙂and shoot I’d honestly rather teach than lay back and fake it lol

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Omg! Your comment just made my day 🤣 you are absolutely right

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Wouldn’t therapy be better?

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Okay thank you for your honesty

Escort is a Vice and really only for the sex part. Pretty Woman was a good movie but not realistic of course lol Amsterdam is pretty straightforward.
Dating these days is really focused on the sexual part very early which isn’t great, really that should come after the relationship is intact and committed.
Being social/small talk might be the boundary, and hobbies are good for social practice and character building and should be practiced more often.
I disagree with others you need therapy, I think therapy is thrown around too often as the elixir of problems.

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A few ideas come to mind. You could try something like a “dating coach” maybe to help you with flirting and making conversation. I have no idea what they are called or where to find one but I’m guessing they exist. You could go the friends with benefits route if you have a friend interested in no strings attached just so you gain some experience. And dating…how are you getting your dates? It might be helpful as some one said, focus on your hobbies and what you enjoy and you can meet some one with the same interests. Go on as many dates as you can. The more dates, the more comfortable you will become.

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Well I think you are certainly an adult and you can make your own decision. I think you are wise to ask advice. I can’t tell you that’s something you should do, is it even legal—I don’t know? Things I would worry about choosing this path—physical safety, financial safety (not getting scammed), and even STD’s. Who knows, I would be a worrier about anything shady. Your future self may regret using an escort service once you find the “one” and you may have to reveal the info to her. At the same time, I understand you are a young man and you are ready for this to happen for you. That’s why I am telling you to go light up the dating scene.

I think No . Give it to God because without him nothing good will come of it . Plus the fact is sex is great with a person you love. It's the trinity of life that God gave us with nothing anything close when it comes to an orgasm when in love. So hold out and trust in your father.

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